I encourage you to exchange the promises below (or your own version of them) with your spouse as a special way to begin a new season of growth in your marriage. Whether you exchange these words in a public ceremony or sitting on your couch in private, I believe your marriage will benefit from this promise of recommitment.
“Today, I recommit myself to God, to you and to our marriage. I ask your forgiveness for the wrongs I have committed and I promise to do my best never to repeat them. I will strive to be the one who wipes away your tears and not the one who causes them. I freely forgive you for any wrongs you have committed and I promise to let go of any past hurts and unresolved anger I’ve carried so that our relationship can move forward with renewed grace and healing.
I promise to always see the best in you and to strive to become the best spouse I can possibly be. I will never again say the word, “divorce,” or to see separation as an option in our relationship. I vow to be your partner, your biggest fan and your best friend no matter what life throws our way. I commit to creating new memories together that will be filled with joy and laughter. I resolve to build my life and our family on a firm foundation of faith in God and His word. Because I am imperfect, I know I will make mistakes, but when I do, I promise to admit it openly, to take full responsibility and to humbly seek your forgiveness. I will never again allow anyone or anything to become more important than my relationship with God and my relationship with you. I wholeheartedly recommit my love and my life to you, ’til death do us part!”
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