From “Middlemarch”

And now within all the automatic succession of theoretic phrases–distinct and inmost as the shiver and the ache of oncoming fever when we are discussing abstract pain–was the forecast of disgrace in the presence of his neighbours and of his own wife. For the pain, as well as the public estimate of disgrace, depends on the amount of previous profession. To men who only aim at escaping felony, nothing short of the prisoner’s dock is disgrace. But Mr. Bulstrode had aimed at being an eminent Christian.

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