“Most People With Addiction Simply Grow Out of It–Why Is This Widely Denied?”: Maia Szalavitz

because it's boring? But no, this is a great reason for both friends and governments not to immediately leap to, "Maybe you have a problem and need help," when somebody has their first realization that they have maybe strayed into 1 Party 2 Many territory. I've made the over-interventiony mistake at least once (I think it's fairly normal for those of us who actually did need to completely quit drinking/using) so it's worth keeping in mind that most people who think, "Whoa okay, I need to get it … [Read more...]

Will the Circle Be Unbroken?: A “Gay and Catholic” DVD Extra

This is the post about "possibilities for publicly honoring nonmarital sacrificial love," and there are a lot of directions I could go with it.I could jump into the ongoing conversation about vowed friendships, except that a) I delve into those questions extensively in the book and b) I don't tbh really grok the CS Lewis, friendship is about gazing outward not at one another, friendship is a realm of pure freedom, stuff. You all already know I don't like realms of pure freedom and am not … [Read more...]

“Five Awful Things I Learned as a Child Laborer in the USA”: Cracked

continues to tell hidden stories: We all love food, because it's delicious and without it we'd all die horribly. We also love the fact that we really don't have to worry where said food came from beyond "the store" or, if you think about it a little harder, "the ground." So what if we were to tell you our favorite foodstuffs are being harvested by tens of thousands of exploited children? This isn't some shady underground child labor ring run by the mafia, either -- it's 100-percent legal in … [Read more...]

“Are ‘Vowed Friendships’ Really What We Need?”: Wesley Hill

rounds up some links. Comments also worth reading; I'm most sympathetic to the first comment, but others raise important points, including the stuff I talked about in that "Captive Virgins" post:As I mentioned a few weeks ago, I wrote an article for Christianity Today on friendship, basically making the case that we ought to be able to think of our Christian friendships as more significant, committed, public, and permanent than we usually do. Well, since then, Matthew Lee Anderson has … [Read more...]

From “Infinite Jest”

Exec. Director [of Ennet House Drug and Alcohol Recovery House (sic)] Pat M. is due in at 0900 and has application interviews with three people, 2F and 1M, who better be showing up soon, and Gately will answer the door when they don't know enough to just come in and will say Welcome and get them a cup of coffee if he judges them able to hold it. He'll get them aside and tip them off to be sure to pet Pat M.'s dogs during the interview. They'll be sprawled all over the front office, sides … [Read more...]

“Becoming Christians: What If You Are an SSA Couple?”: LivingOut

I don't love the insistence on re-terming this relationship a "friendship"--like, give people some breathing room to figure out how they want to talk about their own difficulties and loves!--and I would emphasize more the need to minimize disruption for your children. But overall this is compassionate advice, from a trio of (openly!) same-sex attracted Christian ministers/speakers in England:We recently received an email from a member of a same-sex couple who have both just committed their … [Read more...]

Wedding Crowns and Solidarity in Struggle: A “Gay and Catholic” Book Extra

I've been to two Orthodox Christian weddings so far, and my favorite part of them is the crowns. Both bride and groom are crowned during the ceremony. As with the breaking of the glass in a Jewish wedding (probably also my favorite part, though the chair-bouncing which terrified my father at my sister's wedding may take first place there) I'm guessing there are multiple meanings to this symbol, but the one I've heard most often is that these are the crowns of martyrdom. They're meant to remind … [Read more...]


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