Liberals: Adoption is Only Bad if White Christians are Doing It

After my husband and I adopted Naomi, we were thrust into the world of “adoption politics.”

I’d figured adoption was universally considered to be wonderful, like chocolate cake, rainbows, or a heavy snowfall that keeps everyone home from work and school.  Who could be against helping orphans?

Apparently, this isn’t quite the case.  For liberals, adoption is just great…  unless white Christians are doing it.

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  • Mirah Riben


    Many liberals see beyond the rainbows and sunshine delusions of adoption put forth by adoption industry lobbyists. The public — which includes left and right wingers, democrats, republicans, Jews, Catholics and Christians of all denominations – are steeped in myth that adoption is a win-win that saves orphans and ignore that it has become a market-driven mega billion-dollar industry that puts the needs of adults who pay tens of thousands of dollars per child before the needs of children.

    But those who have the eyes and ears open, who educate themselves know that 90% of children in orphanages are not orphans, but have family who love them and have no intention for them to be swept away by imperialistic “do-gooders.” This is why so many nations from Guatemala to Russia have put a halt to the exportation of their children. War and natural disaster have long been prime for exploitation and corruption. We started with Korea, then Vietnam, eastern Europe and South and Central America and following crisis have worked our way around the world to Africa. Unstable governments are prime for turning a blind eye and anyone, anywhere, can claim a child was found abandoned and SELL that child to a local orphanage who in turn gets a higher fee having the child adopted internationally than domestically.

    Adoption today has been described by respected adoption expert Adam Pertman of the prestigious Donaldson Institute as the “wild west” ripe with exploitation, corruption, deceitful and coercive practices – including kidnapping and child trafficking for adoption – all to obtain children to meet a demand.

    I have been involved in adoption reform since 1980. My first book, entitled “shedding light on…The Dark Side of Adoption” was released in ’88 and my second book THE STORK MARKET: America’s Multi-Billion Dollar Unregulated Adoption Industry was released in ’07. Both of these and many other books and documentaries have exposed the problems inherent in the entrepenaurial adoption system.

    Adult adoptees are speaking out in books such as those by Jane Jeong Trenka. She abd other Korean born adoptees are working to turn the tide within Korea to help single moms instead of using them as brood stock. Here at home, adoptees are seeking equality in regards to access to their won birth certificates.

    Recently, Reuters ran a series on “re-homing” practices where children adopted from overseas are passed around through an underground to anyone who will take them – often pedophiles. Erin Siegal write “Finding Fernanda” about the corruption in Guatemala – a favorite adoption site for liberals who drink the koolaid served up by baby-brokers and pat themselves on the back while ignoring obvious red lights. None of these have anything to do with religion. The facts are all around us.

    True liberals will help turn the tide and work toward family preservation, not adoption separation and loss. True liberals and true Christian evangelicals alike
    must recognize that taking children one at a time does nothing to ameliorate the poverty of their family, village or nation. Instead it adds another layer of grief to people in desperate situations. true compassion – religious or political – is helping provide wells, medical supplies, books and schools to peoples in need, not using them as a supply for children with a price on their heads.

  • Mirah Riben

    Any liberal who believes the problems in adoption are limited to evangelicals is not paying attention.

    “Regrettably, in many cases, the emphasis has changed from the desire to provide a needy child with a home, to that of providing a needy parent with a child. As a result, a whole industry has grown, generating millions of dollars of revenues each year . . .”

    The Special Rapporteur, United Nations, Commission on Human Rights, 2003.

    “Over the past 30 years, the number of families from wealthy countries wanting to adopt children from other countries has grown substantially. At the same time, lack of regulation and oversight, particularly in the countries of origin, coupled with the potential for financial gain, has spurred the growth of an industry around adoption, where profit, rather than the best interests of children, takes centre stage. Abuses include the sale and abduction of children, coercion of parents, and bribery.” UNICEF’s position on Inter-country adoption.

    “…overseas adoption is a kind of child abuse by the state. ….Overseas adoption is the forced expulsion of children from the society where they are supposed to live. In this sense, overseas adoption is a social violence against children. As humans, we exist as part of a gigantic ecosystem. The existence of the biological parents of adoptees can never be annihilated nor denied.
    “Overseas adoption is a forced separation of children from their natural ecosystems, as well as a way of forcing them into compulsory unity with settings different from and unnatural to their genetic and original social systems. Through this forced separation and compulsory unity, not only the adoptees, but also their biological parents, adoptive parents and their family members suffer trauma.” Pastor Kim Do-hyun, director of KoRoot

    Mr Elvin, of Children and Families Across Borders, said: “There is an almost inexhaustible demand for very young children to adopt. People looking to adopt are generally looking to adopt children under the age of three, and preferably under the age of one. That’s your essential problem. In America, which is the biggest importer, if you like, there are 23,000 children in the foster system waiting for adoption, but most of them will be aged five to 16. There’s a very rich, powerful and well-resourced inter-country adoption lobby in the United States.”

    According to Terre des Hommes, there is now, in many cases, “an industry around adoption in which profit, rather than the best interests of the child, takes centre stage”. The business is a seller’s market, because there are far fewer orphans in need of adoption than Western prospective parents wishing to adopt. Although many children adopted in this way do enjoy loving, stable homes with their new families, the number of truly “adoptable children” in overseas orphanages is smaller than the number of prospective parents.

    “…not only is there no global ‘orphan crisis’, but the international adoption trade actively hinders the establishment of proper welfare provision in ‘sending’ countries.”

    According to Unicef, “systemic weaknesses” in the Hague system facilitate “the sale and abduction of children, coercion or manipulation of birth parents, falsification of documents and bribery”. A key weakness is the convention’s failure to prevent signatory countries from adopting from non-signatory countries, so many adoptees to the US and Europe come from states with no obligation to oversee the process.The painful truth is that, as Terre des Hommes puts it, no adult or couple has “the right to a child”, not even if they believe that by exercising that right they may be saving a foreign baby from poverty in “heathen” lands.

    Across the world, there are thousands of parentless children needing adoption, and there is nothing remotely wrong with placing children with caring families. Unfortunately, the international adoption trade has become a murky trench of money-making and malpractice. [1] Penny, Laurie, 2011. Profit, not care: The ugly side of overseas adoptions, Independent. June.

  • Shimi

    If adoption is ethical, then you would never have been “thrust into adoption politics” after becoming adopters. You would have heard the truth and known the truth before you took that child. That you did not know the truth speaks to the lie that you are now contributing to. Nothing about adoption is truthful and adopters willingly hide what they know to protect their purchased child from being returned to their parents. That there is such wide spread corruption is proof that all adoptions are suspect and should be investigated. These children are largely not orphans but have families. These families are bankrupted by the system. Rather than give the tax money we have to protect families together—you Madam—are the one financially benefitting from the impoverishment of families and the destruction of families. Every time you complain that adoption is too expensive and demand that you receive tax money you are personally defrauding tax payers and you are personally stealing from American families–bringing them to the brink of financial ruin. Then when they can not care for their children you are choosing to call yourself God and pretend that you are rescuing children rather than plundering your victims. America has finally begun to talk about adoption truth. Welcome to the new world. Slavery is illegal in America and adoption will be over turned. Think me mad? A year ago you would not have admitted to even this much publically.

  • Sara Heslin Woods

    Well said! Adoption, done properly, is a wonderful thing. Orphans and unwanted children need homes. Stealing and selling babies is wrong.

  • gayetannenbaum

    If you think it’s liberals against Christians, Pastor Deanna Doss Shrodes has a few words for you.

  • Renee Lynne Davies

    Your persecution complex is showing, Ms. French. I’m a liberal. And an adoptee who is anti-adoption no matter who’s involved. I know plenty of other liberal (and conservative and libertarian and…and…and) adoptees who feel similarly.

    Adoption is a $13 billion industry. Its focus is on profit. It claims to be about the needs of children, but it really only serves the desires of adults–entitled adults who are happy to support and enable a greedy and corrupt industry as long as it gets them what they want.

    Adoption is never necessary. There are many, many ways to love, provide for, and care for children without claiming them as one’s own. Changing names; amending birth certificates and identities; negating genetic connections; erasing thousands of years of heritage–none of it is necessary. It is, in fact, selfish and damaging.

    We don’t actually help families and communities by helping ourselves to their children.

  • Sven2547

    Speaking as a liberal, whose Christian parents adopted a beautiful girl from Russia last year (not long before they shut down the Russia->US adoption process), I can safely say that your strawman of liberalism is as inaccurate as it is offensive.

  • Rozy

    In many cases there are not “families” to preserve. A single mother is NOT a family. From The Family: A Proclamation to the World “Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity.” Adoption makes it possible for children to have a family who otherwise would not. Nancy, you and your husband are in the right and I know you are and will be blessed for your providing a whole and loving family to your adopted daughter. God protect you from the naysayers.

  • ThisIsTheEnd

    Wow, just wow. Rozy, your reasoning is a recipe for stealing kids