Lectio Mischief: Apollos

From this morning's readings: A Jew named Apollos, a native of Alexandria, an eloquent speaker, arrived in Ephesus. He was an authority on the Scriptures. He had been instructed in the Way of the Lord and, with ardent spirit, spoke and taught accurately about Jesus, although he knew only the baptism of John. He began to speak boldly in the synagogue; but when Priscilla and Aquila heard him, they took him aside and explained to him the Way of God more accurately.And when he wanted to cross t … [Read more...]

What’s Wrong with BDSM Anyway?

Quick reminder: I write about adult topics.  If your kid reads my blog, your kid is traveling in grown-up land.Way back a year-and-some ago when I wrote a Christian primer on BDSM, a reader complained, and I paraphrase: She never explained why BDSM was wrong!  She just assumed that it was!Today is the day I fill in that blank.  Before you begin reading, please refer to the original post for important background info on what BDSM is and how disorders of arousal fit into the moral life … [Read more...]

Amoris Laetitia and the Trans-Bathroom Can of Worms

Humans, all humans, have a need to feel safe when we go to the bathroom.  It's a viscerally rooted survival instinct.Back when we were young and childless, if a transvestite friend came to the house there were never any issues.  But now we have these young Catholics filling our home, lovely children but still growing in their life of virtue, still easily swayed from the narrow road; we have to think carefully about how that affects our social choices.  And thus, when such a friend asks to use … [Read more...]

So You Want to Bring Your Kids Back to the Catholic Church?

I spent this weekend with as fine a portion of the Knights of Columbus and the Columbiettes as you could hope to meet.  Super group, truly a privilege to be among them. Thank you, prayer team, for your support in making this weekend work, you made all the difference.My hosts told me I could use the lunch hour to talk about anything I wanted, so (surprise!) I talked about evangelization.And thus a follow-up, which I've cross-posted over at my personal blog:If you'd like to continue t … [Read more...]

3 Tips for Keeping Your Dominicans from Looking Like Klansmen

Here in South Carolina we have both Dominicans and Klansmen, but so far there haven't been any social media panics.  I did have a rural Russian Orthodox deacon tell me once that the people at the IGA think he's with the Klan.But we Catholics know these problems are preventable. Here are our top three tips for how to keep anyone from thinking your Dominicans are really KKK:1. Have Them Found an African-American Parish.  Try to do it during the height of Jim Crow if you can.  Nothin' says " … [Read more...]

Sexual Bravado vs. Sexual Maturity

My 8th grader was describing an acquaintance of the same age, and I paraphrase: Her rallying cry is, "Let's go f*** some sh** up!"  She says never posts *full* nudes of herself, so it's okay.  She's obsessed with having a boyfriend, and she keeps asking me what it's like to actually talk to a boy. This is the middle school narrative: If you sext, brandish vulgar language, and organize your life around the quest for a boyfriend, you're the sophisticated one -- even if you've never had a real c … [Read more...]

Whom Does Modesty Serve?

I've got sex on the brain, and before I start into that conversation, I want to lay out a few comments about the limits of modesty.Here's a quick working definition: With respect to chastity, modesty is the collection of actions we take in order to safeguard our purity.  Modesty includes not only the way we dress, but the way we interact with others.There are of course other areas where modesty applies -- with respect to our wealth, our accomplishments, and so forth.  For your homework, y … [Read more...]