What’s Natural?

By April Diaz

When we signed up to adopt to kids back in July 2009 we knew it would be hard. Most every parent we’ve talked to since then has knowingly chuckled, sighed, or pitied us when we told them we were adopting 2 little ones at the same time. We’re grateful for those informed parent responses because never once did we think this was going to be simple. They were right!

On maybe our second or third day parenting Judah and Addise, Brian was about to claw his eyes out with some reason Judah was bugging him. Totally unedited he announced, “This is unnatural! Normal parents do not get a toddler and infant at the same time.” I think we laughed. Maybe we cried. But he’s right – this is an unnatural thing that just happened to our quiet, clean, predictable Diaz casa.

I’ve thought a lot about Brian’s honest declaration over the past couple weeks. A lot about our lives these past few years has been unnatural. Infertility is unnatural. Children without parents is not natural. Paying exorbitant amounts of money to have a family is unnatural. Leaving your children halfway across the world for 2 months so more paperwork can be completed – UNNATURAL. Black children belonging to a white momma and brown daddy is unnatural.

There’s not much that’s natural about what’s happened in our family.

It’s at this point my theology bursts forth: Jesus adopting sinful children into his forever family is not natural. I wonder if the most unnatural phrase is Scripture is this: the Word became flesh. It was not natural for an all-powerful, holy God chose to enter the world as an orphan [Remember: Joseph essentially adopted Jesus as his son] in order to usher in redemption.

“So the Word became human and made his home among us.
He was full of unfailing love and faithfulness.”
Thanks April.
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  • Christine

    Congratulations to you both on your newly created family. You’re in such early days, three weeks, I think? It gets easier in many ways and harder in others, but you have TIME to grow into it all, thankfully.

    Am 15 years ahead of you in the international adoption created family experience, and would do it all over again without a nano second of thought.

    As for “natural” vs “unnatural,” it doesn’t matter a whit as, ultimately, it’s just parent/s and child/ren. Sure, there are a few more important layers to it in terms of adoption and transracial issues that biological families don’t deal with, but in the end, it’s just family in the fullest sense of the word.

    Patience and joy and strength and rest to you all!

  • cas

    I just love this. So honest, so true! Blessings on a beautiful family. ~