College-Educated: Women vs. Men (wow)

See this piece from Jordan Weissmann? Where should the single woman not live?

Are you a young, college-educated woman? Are you looking to settle down one day with a young, college-educated man? A word of advice: Stay away from Sarasota, Florida.

No offense intended to Sarasota’s bachelors — I’m sure they’re lovely. But for every ten guys under 35 with a diploma, there are roughly 18 female college grads the same age roaming the city’s greater metro area. Nobody’s beach body is worth battling those odds.

Of course, Sarasota is just an extreme example of what’s true all over America. The number of college-educated women now far outstrips the number of college-educated men, which in turn has diminished their options in the dating pool (as you might be aware, a coupleofAtlantic articles have touched on this issue). Since most romance is local, I’ve spent the last few days sorting through Census data on the country’s 100 or so largest metro areas to figure out where the disparities are worst — or in other words, where a college-educated woman might have the hardest time finding a good date….

Decades ago, women who went to college had a noticeably smaller chance of getting married than those who didn’t. Today, they’ve closed most, if not all, of that gap. The unfortunate side effect is that there is now more competition among them for spouses. And with females about 27 percent more likely to earn a bachelor’s than males, many find themselves marrying down the educational ladder.


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  • Stephen

    You’re implying that a higher education makes a man/woman a better person which is false. I’d much rather marry a good hard-working Christian woman with a high-school diploma over an atheist with a master’s degree.

  • A person’s status as a card-carrying Christian is irrelevant to me. I have a Bachelor’s degree and some graduate work under my belt. I married someone who had a year at a community college when we met. He later earned an Associate’s degree from the Navy. Neither his religion nor his educational level has made him a good or bad spouse. His fidelity to our partnership and his respectful dealings with others (particularly our children) is what has made our marriage work for twenty years.

  • RJS

    I don’t think this is saying that education makes someone a better person.

    Rather (1) there is still an assumption by many that the education level should be equal or the man’s should be higher; Or alternatively (2) for many people near equal educational levels makes for a better partnership.

  • Sue

    As a school teacher, I notice that many of my colleagues are very happily married to plumbers, electricians and firemen. Women stay in college longer because they can’t compete in the job market with men without a degree. Women are poorly represented in the trades.

  • Jag

    What a coincidence. I live with an atheist woman with two masters degrees who is very hard-working and the kindest, most loving person I’ve ever met. Interestingly, she was a real card-carrying Christian earlier in life, going to church twice a week, volunteering to be the secretary, singing in the choir, etc. etc.

  • AJG

    The question that this survey avoids is are women being educated in disciplines that result in actual employment? I would argue that a bachelor’s degree in engineering is worth much more than a PhD in women’s studies or English literature. Women are still woefully underrepresented in STEM fields. That is not to say that STEM fields are better than other degrees, but they are more likely to result in better paying jobs that justify the expense of a college education.

    This will sound mean, but I truly believe that there are too many people going to college who have no business being there. They have no plan for their lives or how they will service the debt they incur because of college. I suspect most people go to college because that’s just what people do after high school.

  • Kim Brandt

    I’m in a 39-year marriage with a man who stopped just short of a bachelor’s, helped me finish my bachelor’s, a second bachelor’s and a master’s degree (all three gave me employment). Over the years we went from him being the main bread winner in the construction field, to me being the main bread winner in the medical arts. He has no ego issues, is now retired and has Parkinson’s, and is, I’m sure, glad he helped his wife learn to make very decent money doing valuable work. And, I forgot to say this, he’s a great husband and father. I found him in church, and snapped him up, and never looked back. Oh, and I also forgot to say, he reads rings around me, which anyone can do, and keeps minds sharp and conversations fresh.