Do We Christians even Want the Same Things?

The following post by author Ed Cyzewski originally appeared at his blog In a Mirror Dimly.

Can Christians Be Unified If We Don’t Want the Same Thing?

I used to find Christianity exhausting.

I even found some of my Christian friends exhausting.

Worse than that, I was probably the most exhausting person of them all. With a Bible degree and a Master of Divinity in progress, I was building an arsenal of knowledge. I use a military metaphor here on purpose.

Nevertheless, my motivations were at least partially good.

I wanted to know for myself and for the sake of others which parts of Christianity were important and which parts needed to be dropped.

Why were people so worked up over only using The King James Version?

Why did some Christians oppose Billy Graham?

Is rock music with a pounding drum beat wrong?

Will the earth end with a fiery tribulation and massive bloodshed?

Those were just my “starter” questions. I had plenty of others that came up along the way:

The sovereignty of God, the nature of salvation, the role of the Holy Spirit, the roles of men and women in marriage, the role of women in the church, and the reliability of the Bible, just to name a few.

Let’s just say that there were times in my life when I didn’t know how to have a “light” conversation. I didn’t have time to read novels. I had to figure things out about God.

As I started to learn things, I picked up another skill. I started to draw boundaries and erect fences. People who agreed with me were in. People who disagreed were out. Needless to say, preserving my version of Christianity demanded attacking all who disagreed.

Most importantly, I knew that I was RIGHT. And my entire approach to Christianity revolved around having the facts straight.

If I didn’t get my description of the atonement precisely right, if I misunderstood the role of Israel, if I didn’t precisely understand the Holy Spirit, and if I didn’t believe everything in the Bible was precisely recorded and easily understood by anyone committed to interpreting it literally, my faith would fall apart.

In other words, I had THE ANSWERS to these major Christian doctrines, and my “faith” only worked if my answers all lined up and were preserved.

If my answers failed, then the whole system came crashing down. I lived in constant fear of this happening, and my defensiveness hinted that all was not well.

I had faith, but I’m not sure what my faith was in.

I would have told you I had faith in Jesus, but I didn’t. I had faith in my doctrines about Jesus. If you didn’t agree, then I would either school you in them so that you could be either saved just like me or banished outside the bounds of my version of Christian orthodoxy.

I was exhausted… and exhausting.

Everything about my faith back then was defensive. I used words like protect, defend, guard, and keep to describe my faith.

My faith wasn’t something I used. I didn’t see faithfulness as obedient action. Faithfulness was sticking to my doctrinal script, believing the same things I’d learned and holding onto them no matter what.


Something Better Than Boundaries

I won’t call myself the “Pharisee of Pharisees,” but I was pretty judgmental of other Christians who didn’t meet my standards and read the Bible the same way. My system of beliefs demanded this.

If they were right, my entire notion of Christianity would fall apart. Salvation came through Jesus, but I could only approach Jesus through the beliefs I’d carefully assembled.

No matter how many books I read, I couldn’t keep myself from a nagging thought: I don’t feel like the people in the Bible.

The authors of scripture speak of the deep love of God, the joy of the Lord, and the peace that passes understanding.

I was grumpy, divisive, nervous, and combative.

Worse than that, I found that I related best to the Pharisees.

Doesn’t Jesus know what a Sabbath is for?

You can only man the trenches of truth for so long. I needed to step back from the front lines and stop fighting. Fatigue had set in, and I came to terms with a few things: I did not have the abundant life that Jesus promised and something needed to change if I was going to continue as a follower of Jesus.

The changes took years to develop.

Along the way I saw that I could be a staunchly dogmatic progressive just as easily as I could be a staunchly dogmatic conservative.

Sometimes the nouns don’t matter—liberal, conservative, progressive—if we precede them with words like gracious or loving. Those who have experienced the love of God and have been transformed by it don’t need to use another label.

I’ve lived in fear of my doctrines being challenged. Some days I still get a little worked up when someone suggests that my beliefs are wrong. We all believe something and make important life decisions based on our beliefs. Being wrong could be unsettling to say the least.

However, the key is the fruit of our beliefs. Do our beliefs help us grow in love of God, faith in Christ, and power through the Spirit? Do our beliefs send us out to make disciples, prompting us to tell others that God is reaching out to them too?

I’m not interested in excluding anyone anymore. That was an exhausting way to live. I will disagree, but it’s not my job to defend anything. It’s my job to keep living in the Gospel and using it to reach out.


Should We Exclude Those Who Draw Boundaries?

I don’t want to “exclude” the people who continue to draw boundaries and defend doctrines today. That would defeat my point here. In fact, I welcome diversity. However, the only practical way to be diverse is to be gracious about a diversity of beliefs.

I wonder just how much we can be unified if we don’t want the same things. In fact, we’re almost opponents on some points, I’m trying to welcome in some of the people others want to keep out.

It’s a mess, and I don’t have any solutions.

I just know that my former self who drew up boundaries and defended his faith with grit and determination wouldn’t stand for any of this. It’s not that I would want to exclude my former self. It’s that my former self would never go along with the person I’ve become today.

We need to temper our “Can’t we all just get along?” pleas.

No, we can’t all “just get along,” and here is why:

I am not a truth defender first and foremost. I’ve been transformed by the truth, and based on that, I am convicted to reach out to others and welcome them into God’s advancing Kingdom.

I have committed myself to Jesus and to living the kind of life he modeled and talked about in the Bible. I am fully convinced that it is true. And because I believe it is true, I will live my life erasing boundaries and reaching out to anyone, and I mean anyone, who will listen to the story of Jesus.

Living in the truth of the Gospel means I’m committed to removing the boundaries that others think the Gospel compels them to build.

The only requirement for approaching God in the Gospels and at the end of Revelation is thirst. If you thirst for God, come. We may never work out all of our issues with each other, but if we can agree that the thirsty should come, then we agree on what is most important.

I have beliefs and convictions about certain doctrines, but they pale in importance to experiencing Jesus day to day and sharing him with others, welcoming anyone who is thirsty.

And when the thirsty come, we will speak of God’s kindness that leads to repentance.

We may argue and disagree about every other verse we read in the Bible, but if we can agree that the thirsty should come, then we have agreed on enough. The path will look different for each of us, but that path will require the removal of boundaries and lead to the same place.

That common destiny in the love of God is what unites us.

Ed Cyzewski blogs at where he shares imperfect and sometimes
sarcastic thoughts about following Jesus. He is the co-author of Hazardous: Committing to the Cost

of the Following Jesus and the author of Coffeehouse Theology. Find him on twitter: @edcyzewski
and on Facebook. Subscribe to his e-newsletter for previews of his upcoming books Unfollowers: The Dropouts, Detractors, and Doubters of Jesus and The Good News of Revelation:


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  • Susan_G1

    You’ve come to a very good place. I believe in your position with all of my heart. But I still feel the “Can’t we all just get along?” pleas. I do not live up to what I believe Christ wants of me.

  • mteston1

    “You can only man the trenches of truth for so long.” I like it. That trench is too deep and too wide is it not?

  • Jean

    Great post! I would be interested in the author’s thoughts on whether this openness should be extended to Church leaders. I ask this because some mainline denominations have expressed similar openness and have extended this to clergy.