Poe's apology

I arrived back from D.C. to find a card from Poe. I had no idea that Poe could write:

Dearest Karen,

Obviously I cannot begin to express my deepest regret for the misunderstanding we experienced last summer. I know I can never undo the pain and suffering that my unintended action cause, but I want you to know how much I value you as a caring, loving and nuturing owner. 

Love, Poe

I’m a big believer in grace and forgiveness. I try to extend it whenever possible. I’m not much of a grudge-bearer, nor am I one who likes to indulge pettiness. According to a study by the Fetzer Institute, sixty-two percent of Americans said they need more forgiveness in their personal lives, and 94 percent would like to see more forgiveness in the country. Ahhh. Sweet. It looks like Americans may have had a change of heart since that post 9-11 “boot up your arse” bickering between Toby Keith and Dixie Chicks.

I suppose the day will come when I am able to forgive Poe but it won’t be today. Poe’s opening remarks all are the indication I need to know that he just doesn’t get it. Misunderstanding? Gimme a break. It was an intentional dog bite. Unwarranted meanness.

My buddy Joe Galloway agrees with me on this. “Surely you are NOT going to let that cannibal dawg off with a drugstore card? you ought to make him sleep outdoors all this winter and next…. and maybe his owner too.”

Of course Joe would agree with me. He had a finger nearly taken off by a friend’s dog during that same time frame that Poe tried to bite off my nose. Joe and I have great empathy for one another when it comes to this matter.
The study says that most Americans believe that forgiveness is conditional — sixty percent said “forgiving someone would first depend on the offender apologizing and making changes.” Even God required that forgiveness come with a price. I just haven’t yet decided the price Poe must pay.
Poe’s card is a paw in the right direction but it’s going to take more than a dime-store card to convince me that he can be trusted.

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  • Since Don Miller’s dog starting writing on his blog a few months ago, I should have known it was just a matter of time before yours did.
    On a more serious note, I don’t agree with you that forgiveness comes with a price. I think that’s the thing about forgiveness: it’s unconditional.
    Unless you consider confessing a condition (1 John 1:9). But is that really a price?

    • Karen Spears Zacharias

      James: You need to take that writing envy thing up with Poe and Lucy. Perhaps you could write them a letter.

      RE: the more serious note. Forgiveness always comes with a price. Grace begins with the Blood of Christ. Price paid, yes, but still a price. The Love behind it may be unconditional. The forgiveness part isn’t.

  • The Old Sponsor

    Surely you don’t assume that my client’s actions were premeditated? His actions constituted a startled response, in which survival neuro-transmitters overwhelmed more critical evaluation processes. Indeed, as the Court has ruled for those less than 18, he simply lacks development in the area of his brain known for ‘moral imagination’ or the ‘sympathetic’ region. Thus, he cannot be held fully accountable for this flawed mechanism – the evolutionary limits of his brain functioning. But, since your ‘sympathetic’ region should be fully developed,as a mature woman, your lack of forgiveness in this matter is the more censurable. Anyway, that is what I’m sticking with unless you do insist that I remain out in the kennel with Poe.

    • Karen Spears Zacharias

      See, you already talk like a lawyer.

  • Peg Willis

    Bad dog, Poe! BAD DOG! I suspect Karen is not interested in forgiving you. Contrition would help. Chocolates might help too. A card? No.