Why Being Vulnerable Doesn’t Frighten Me

People say it to me all the time and it is true: You are exactly the same in person as you are online, in your books, in your columns, etc. 

It never occurs to me to be otherwise.

Sometimes they tell me I even look like my photos. That makes me laugh. Perhaps I should have photo-shopped my head on Cindy Crawford’s body?

I don’t fear being myself or being vulnerable.

I fear the day when I will feel the need to mask it in order to earn approval among the masses.


Vulnerability isn’t good or bad. It’s not what we call a dark emotion, nor is it always a light, positive experience. Vulnerability is the core of all emotions and feelings. To feel is to be vulnerable. To believe vulnerability is weakness is to believe that feeling is weakness. To foreclose on our emotional life out of a fear that the costs will be too high is to walk away from the very thing that gives purpose and meaning to living.


Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.

Daring Greatly, Brene Brown

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  • Tara @ I Might Need a Nap

    Vulnerability is one of those thin places of unconquerable yet not instantly recognizable beauty. It’s all about the relationships, isn’t it? I love the video. Thank you for sharing it. And no way am I offering you a sandwich. Unless you want one. 🙂

    • Karen Zacharias

      If the sandwich is from Bare Bulb, absolutely! Wish we were sitting there now.

      • Tara @ I Might Need a Nap

        Heading there myself for a meeting and then to finish knitting a slipper for a child in Little Lights. Will think of you and hope for Light and peace for both of us. And as soon as you are here, we are THERE.

  • Tim

    Karen, I’ve considered putting Cindy Crawford’s head on my body for my blog picture. Could work.
    Great video too. Why should I try to put a silver lining around someone else’s problem? I can’t even put one around my own most times. The issue isn’t whether there’s a silver lining, of course. Instead we have God who is with us in all circumstances, and since Jesus was God incarnate we have a God who can say “I’ve been there, and you’re not alone.”

    • Karen Zacharias

      Yep. Jesus isn’t afraid to join us in our darkness…or in the light of day.

  • Loretta

    Actually, that’s something I’ve noticed and appreciated about you since the beginning…you are always the same, never pretentious, never in too much of a hurry to stop and talk to someone, and never, ever boring!!!! Merry Christmas to you, my dear friend, and to your family, I hope all their wishes and prayers will be fulfilled this season!

    • Karen Zacharias

      Loretta: At my book signing in Pendleton today there was a fellow whose family had ties to Cullman and Wheat, Al. His wife’s people are from back that way. And he had a relative whose name, I swear, was Georgia Texas. I kept thinking of you and wishing you were around to hear his stories. Hugs to you Missy.