Regarding the Duggars – are you part of the problem or part of the solution?

Hell's bells, y'all, I really didn't want to end my blogging sabbatical and start up writing again on a stomach-churning, blood-pressure raising, angry-eyes note but damnit, the news of the Duggar disgrace continues to unfurl, so - here we are.I am worried to pieces about the girls who were repeatedly sexually assaulted and who now seem to be little more than flotsam to the very people who scream loudest about family values.I am pissed as hell at a couple of parents who willfully sacri … [Read More...]


Thin places in liminal spaces

It seems that a lot of us spend a lifetime careening out of the last thing and crashing clumsily into the next thing by crudely duct-taping a series of ragged overlaps from one experience to the next.  The trouble is, we're often so hungover from the heartbreak of yesterday and so thirsty for the ecstasy of tomorrow that we are utterly unable to savor the simple sweetness of today.But right now, no matter how I thrash, beg, cajole, smile demurely or petulantly demand, I just can't seem to for … [Read More...]


Eastertide sabbatical

Happy Easter, dear friends. Christ is risen! Christ is risen indeed!In this season of resurrection and renewal it is time for me to step away from the seemingly never ending fight to have my sacred worth recognized and my humanity acknowledged by those whose hearts are still enslaved by ignorance, fear, loathing and power-hungry religiosity.So, between now and Pentecost I am taking a digital sabbatical and stepping away from blogging, commenting on other blogs, engaging in any discussion … [Read More...]


So you’re getting straight-married…again?

Someone very dear to me called the other day to say that she and her boyfriend are talking about getting married. She was brimming with so much joy and excitement that I practically felt the sunlight of her happiness radiating through the phone and I swear I saw a flock of doves take flight on the bright blue horizon of her hope.My heart rejoiced with her. I really am over-the-moon happy for anyone who finds love, especially the kind of love that makes them feel wanted, safe, respected and … [Read More...]


You’re invited to dinner

Extravagance UCC Dinner Church Sunday, March 29, 2015 6 p.m. EST/5 p.m. CST/4 p.m. MST/3 p.m. PST Sunday Dinner and church have gone together for a long time. But, not quite like this. Extravagance UCC’s Dinner Church takes the best of your grandmother’s Sunday meal —the mashed potatoes, the mac and cheese, the pie …and infuses it with prayer, music and fellowship with your family of choice (both in person and online).Extravagance ministers Kimberly Knight and Nicole Havelka will gather s … [Read More...]

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Casting the first stone

I've been thinking a lot about the arrest of judge Roy Moore's son. Did you hear about it? According to the police department in Troy, Alabama, Chief Justice Roy Moore's son Caleb, who is 24, was arrested and charged with possession of a controlled substance and possession of marijuana after a run-in with police in the wee small hours of Sunday, March 15.Judge Moore quickly closed ranks and had no comment to share with the public about his son's arrest. My first impulse was to do a lit … [Read More...]


Freedom of religion: marriage and guns

Content warning:  Smattering of salty language, overuse of parenthetical asides and at least two shenanigans.There are "freedom of religion" bills cropping up all over the bloody States. From where I sit, the spirit of these bills is gives anyone the ability to holler "God hates fags" if they do not want toa. sell their crappy wedding cakes to the gays b. do the job their asses are paid BY MY TAXES to do c. allow the little children to come unto them d. put out the damn fire … [Read More...]


The Gifts he Gives Me

One upon a time I was married.To a man.For over a decade.His name is David.My story is not unique, not by a long shot, but for me every step is fresh with surprises as if no one has ever walked this path before.I met David at a time in my life when I was headed down a dangerous path of filling my aching soul with all the wrong people and all the wrong vices. He appeared in my life with kindness, laughter, intelligence, a guitar slung across his back and long, long red hair fr … [Read More...]


Grace in Alabama – thy name is Jeremy Todd Addaway

Last month Jeremy Todd Addaway, a self-identified red-neck in Alabama, tried and failed to find evidence that the legalization of same-sex marriage in Alabama had caused any damage to the state, “I read on the news today some information, that homosexuals will be getting married in Alabama today, so I wanted to give you a live report from Blount County”I know, right?!?My heart just burst with happiness so I immediately reached out to Jeremy not only to thank him for this great video b … [Read More...]

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Yes I am intolerant of intolerance

So, earlier today I posted a story on Facebook about an attorney in California who filed a proposed ballot measure with the California Attorney General’s office asking voters to criminalize homosexuality in the state and impose a death penalty sentence. “The People of California wisely command, in the fear of God, that any person who willingly touches another person of the same gender for purposes of sexual gratification be put to death by bullets to the head or by any other convenient method.” R … [Read More...]