It’s not a gay kiss, it’s a kiss. An open letter to the straight friend.

“You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.” ― Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and LifeI'm in love! I am wildly, madly, deeply, paradigm-shiftingly, make up words if I want to, in love. And yes, I am in love with a woman.Dear straight friend,The other day when we were all hanging out, you with your husband and teenagers and I with my partner, I thought we we … [Read More...]

Bruce ain’t goin’ to NC, but I am…and we’re both right.

Major corporations, film and television productions and even broadway musicals are boycotting North Carolina over legalized LGBT discrimination in HB2, a law that explicitly bars transgender individuals from public bathrooms for the gender they identify as.This, my friends, is the very definition of unconstitutional because it is in direct violation of the 1st and 14th amendments.About the first - HB2 establishes a state religion (but it ain't really Christianity y'all, its the worship of … [Read More...]

Why I am still going to Wild Goose Festival In North Carolina

Wild Goose Festival! For some of y'all those words get your tummies all a flutter with excitement.For some of you, whut the heck are you talkin' about??And for some of my friends, even though they have been and dearly love this weird and wonderful festival, they can't bring themselves to attend this year. Why? Because North Carolina. In light of the horrific HB2 and the important boycotts of NC, I can totally respect this decision.I've struggled with that a bit too, but in the end I … [Read More...]

Good Friday Pop Quiz: Who Killed Jesus?

I did.I do.If Borg and Crossan are right, and I hang my theological hat on the hunch that they are, that "the execution of Jesus was virtually inevitable. Not because of divine necessity, but because of human inevitability..." and that "Jesus did not die for the sins of the world. The language of substitutionary sacrifice for sin is absent from his story. But in an important sense, he was killed because the sin of the world. It was the injustice of the domination system that killed him, i … [Read More...]

A prayer in times of perpetual violence

Oh God! It has happened. My heart is numb as I learn of evil unleashed by your Children. Again.Open my heart, Wounded One that I may feel. Again.Oh God! It has happened. My eyes are dry as I watch images of your Children shredded by violence. Again.Open my eyes Compassionate One that I may weep. Again.Oh God! It had happened. My ears are baffled as I hear sounds of your Children screaming and weeping. Again.Open my ears Healing One that I may … [Read More...]

Homophobia in the doctor’s office

Over two years ago I posted about the fear I carry when visiting the doctor, especially when taking my children to receive health care. I hear all the time, from otherwise well-meaning folks, that things are getting better so I have nothing to really be afraid of. Actually, friends, the more things change, the more dangerous it can get.A friend posted this in a private group on Facebook. With her permission, and the promise to preserve her anonymity, I want to share her very real concerns … [Read More...]

A queer quandary for Ash Wednesday

So, this coming Wednesday is Ash Wednesday and oddly enough for this Baptist raised, UCC livin', progressive/process/liberation/feminist/queer theological mutt, it is a highly significant day in my yearly walk with Jesus.For those of you unfamiliar with the Christian calendar, Ash Wednesday marks the beginning of Lent, a Christian season of fasting and prayer leading up to Easter. Ash Wednesday services are somber events that culminate in the ritual imposition of ashes, which is the moment wh … [Read More...]

Why this Christian lesbian was not at the Gay Christian Network Conference

I am hearing truly wonderful news of love and warmth and transformative experiences coming from the Gay Christian Network conference this past week. Let me say, before I get a bit rant-tacular, that I am immensely grateful for the many hearts, minds and bodies that were embraced, maybe some for the first time ever, at the GCN event.Folks have asked why I was not there. To be get right to the point, it's the whole GCN "Great Debate" and the Side B shenanigans. I just can't get past it. Maybe … [Read More...]

Advent Reflection in a Time of Terror: God is Waiting for US

Advent is the season between Thanksgiving and Christmas Day where Christians mark the days of darkness waiting for the In-Breaking of Peace, waiting for the Incarnation of Love. It is a season for lighting candles in the darkness because we believe Emmanuel, God With Us, will soon shed the light of eternal love and justice on every dark corner of the world.Now more than ever it seems like every day, all year 'round is Advent. Aren’t we all waiting for something to change?Every time ano … [Read More...]

Franklin Graham is right, there is sin in homosexuality

The other day Franklin Graham, in a self-righteous, power-coveting, ignorance-laced, fear-inducing rant on Facebook garnered over 147,000 likes, 58,000 shares and 18,000 comments by with a post about the sin of homosexuality.And after much soul searching, prayer and study I've decided it's time for me to tell the truth about the sin of homosexuality.Now hang on, I’m not saying what you may think I’m saying or what the Franklin Fundiepants might hope I’d be saying.Not even close.Th … [Read More...]


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