I’m over at the Washington Post today!

Hey, guess what? I’m over at the Washington Post today writing about love! The Washington Post’s online religion section is doing a Valentines Day series and asked me to write “An Atheist’s Guide to Love.” (Many thanks to Hemant for recommending me to them!)

Here’s an excerpt:

Without instructions flowing from religious dogma, atheists are free to simply focus on finding ways to build healthy relationships and on setting a healthy balance between self and others. Given the lack of atheist dogma, this is a very individual thing. Many atheists marry and raise children together, others get divorced, and still others choose not to marry, or form alternative families or engage in polyamory. As an atheist, there’s no set rule for what a family or a relationship is supposed to look like. Instead, it’s up to you.

Read the rest here!

My article appears alongside Mark Driscoll’s. Yes, that’s right, he’s the one they tapped to write “A Christian’s Guide to Love.”

Gamergate Comes Home
Let's Talk about Riots
Any Time I Hear Someone Say "Traditional Marriage"
Anonymous Tip: In Which Peter Is Good with Kids
About Libby Anne

Libby Anne grew up in a large evangelical homeschool family highly involved in the Christian Right. College turned her world upside down, and she is today an atheist, a feminist, and a progressive. She blogs about leaving religion, her experience with the Christian Patriarchy and Quiverfull movements, the detrimental effects of the "purity culture," the contradictions of conservative politics, and the importance of feminism.

  • http://www.wineandmarble.com Hännah

    Hahaha. Good work.

  • Christine

    Your second link to the article is broken.

  • Kalipay

    congratulations on the article!!

  • AnotherOne

    That’s great! And I’ll avoid the Driscoll one. He’s bad for my health.

    This isn’t related to today’s post, but it’s a fascinating piece on the psychology of purity culture in the church: http://experimentaltheology.blogspot.com/2013/02/the-psychology-of-christian-purity.html?spref=fb

  • http://LyricalPolyphony.blogspot.com mary

    Oh dear God. Mark Driscoll? Really?

  • http://allweathercyclist.blogspot.ca/ JethroElfman

    Isn’t it curious that they don’t make you use your real name? What are you going to do when you publish your first book? We are all eager to see it BTW. Then you are going to have to go on a marketing tour of the talk shows.

    • http://patheos.com/blogs/lovejoyfeminism Libby Anne

      Haha, I do want to write a book, I’m just still trying to figure out what exactly I would write a book *on*!

      • Monika

        I’m a parent and I think your insights into different parenting techniques and your journey from your own childhood experiences to what you are providing for Sally and Bobby are very illuminating (and interesting and funny). So that would be my vote.

  • Christine

    The Driscoll one was odd… more like the middle part of a sermon than anything else. I think that Libby and Driscoll were writing for a similar audience. The difference is that in Libby’s case it’s comendable – assuming that not everyone has your background, and writing to explain. In his case, he’s just deliberately preaching to the choir.

  • http://www.wideopenground.com Lana

    Driscoll totally made your point.. He even threw in his marriage roles. :P

  • DoctorD

    Nice job, Libby.

  • http://valuesfromscratch.blogspot.com Marian

    Ugh! As a Christian who really, really cannot stand Mark Driscoll it makes me really, really frustrated that the Washington Post selected him to represent all Christians. I haven’t even read the article yet (heading over there when I finish writing this to read your article, Libby, but not sure if I’m willing to subject myself to his) but I can be quite sure that it does not match THIS Christian’s idea of what love looks like… I’m staunchly egalitarian BECAUSE of, not in spite of, my Christian beliefs and people who teach headship/submission or patriarchy and try to claim it’s God’s will for humanity just make me MAD!

    Really, they couldn’t have at least titled it “An Evangelical Christian’s Guide To Love”??? It’s enough to make me believe that there’s some sort of evil media bias designed to make Christian’s look bad… except not, because I’m not crazy and because I realize that if Christian’s look bad in the media it’s because there’re too many loudmouthed bad Christians.

    • Monika

      I do think you are right that the media looks for conflict. That is what gives the loudmouthed bad Christians a big platform.

    • Jasen

      Even for evangelical Christians, Mark Driscoll is a bad choice.

  • ewok_wrangler

    Very nice job: expressive, clear, and perfectly pitched to its intended audience.

  • http://trikepilotadventures.blogspot.com/ trikepilot

    I find the path that I have chosen, free from what you describe as, “Specific roles, particular patterns, and detailed scripts,” leaves me better equipped to enjoy the wonder of this life.

    Thanks for writing this. Thanks also for being my new favorite blogger.

  • http://ripeningreason.com/ Rachel Marcy (Bix)

    Well done! That’s exciting.

  • J-Rex

    I haven’t read Driscoll’s piece, but I’ll summarize based on what I’ve heard from him:
    “The husband is to be the leader of the wife, just like Christ is the leader of the church. Husbands who do not lead are wimpy, girly men. Wives must submit to their husbands, but that’s totally okay because a husband would never take advantage of that. Wives should give their husbands blow jobs every morning. Mark…umm…I mean…*Jesus* commands it. Husbands, as long as you aren’t beating her, you’re not doing anything wrong. *Rage at husbands who beat their wives to prove I’m not misogynistic* *More commands about things wives should do that I’m just saying because I wish Grace would do it more!!!*

  • Olivier

    À great article , full of deep thoughts and simple truth.
    Thank you for your work!

  • http://republic-of-gilead.blogspot.com Ahab

    That’s wonderful! Congrats!