TTUAC: Pacifiers Make Children Fat

To Train Up A Child, chapter 15, part 1 Chapter 15 of Michael Pearl’s child rearing manual, To Train Up A Child, is titled "Training in Self-Indulgence." Let's have a look, shall we?HIS WIFE, SHE ATE NO LEAN Early habits are lifelong habits. Why is it that some fat people find themselves compelled to eat when they become emotionally disturbed? They get angry or depressed and then go to the refrigerator as a way of coping. I have been told by grotesquely obese women that they wouldn't be f … [Read more...]

TTUAC: Ignore Your Child’s Tears

To Train Up A Child, chapter 14, part 2Today we'll finish up the chapter on "emotion control." As a reminder, we're reviewing Michael Pearl's child rearing manual, To Train Up A Child. My parents used this book with me as I grew up. As I became a parent myself I came to see Michael's advice as toxic and even abusive. And indeed, his book has been linked to three children's deaths. In this series we dismantle it piece by piece.POOR THING, WHERE DOES IT HURT? For your childrens' own good, … [Read more...]

TTUAC: The “Emotional Liar”

To Train Up A Child, chapter 14, part 1And, we're back! I'm not sure whether I'll keep this regular or on the same day, but I do want to get back to reviewing Michael Pearl's child rearing manual, To Train Up A Child. It's been a year and a half since I took a break from this series. I had no idea it had been that long until I checked today!For those new to this series, and new to the Pearls, Michael Pearl is a fundamentalist Christian author and preacher who has traction in many … [Read more...]

When Toxicity Demands a Break

In case you haven't noticed, I'm taking a bit of a break from my series on To Train Up a Child. It was just starting to get to me, delving into it like that week after week. Don't worry, the series will be back once I've had a bit of a breather.In the meantime, have a dose of laughing babies to wash the Pearls' parenting advice out of your system: … [Read more...]

TTUAC: Bad Attitudes Are a Disease

To Train Up A Child, chapter 13, part 3Today we finish the chapter on "attitude training." WHY IS EVERYBODY ALWAYS PICKING ON ME?While I teach a Bible class, my two daughters help baby-sit a house full of children under five (five children under five is a house full). One of the mothers returned to find her three-year-old daughter whining of being mistreated by a little fellow under two. They all confirmed that the stumbling toddler had in fact provoked a class-A-altercation without … [Read more...]

TTUAC: If Your Child Is Roughed-Up, Rejoice!

To Train Up A Child, chapter 13, part 2In this post, we continue Michael's chapter on "attitude training." Trigger warning for bullying victims, because if it wasn't painfully obvious from the title, Michael's about to go there. PARENTAL PROTOTYPESNever expect more of your children in the way of attitude than you are yourself. Happy, well balanced parents who neglect the rod and reproof will have grouchy, complaining, tantrum-oriented children. But, in a situation where one or both of … [Read more...]

TTUAC: Attitude Training, Beatings, and Lydia Schatz

To Train Up A Child, chapter 12, part 1And at last, here we are. "Attitude Training." I have really not been looking forward to this section of the book. As I think I've mentioned before, I was raised on the Pearls' child training methods, and it was the attempt to control my attitude---my thoughts and my emotions---that stung the most. As we will see, it was also this focus on attitude that led to the death of Lydia Schatz. KEEPING LITTLE HEARTSThe attitude of your children is far more … [Read more...]