Teaching Us to Drink Hemlock Kool-Aid

Tmp485521531112259586

My Five Wives. Source TLC. 

This is a casual grouping of You Tube videos demonstrating the push to normalize both polygamy and “polyamory.”

We’re being taught to accept this folks, the same way we were taught to accept gay marriage. We are being offered Kool-Aid that is laced with spiritual and societal hemlock.

Don’t drink it yourself, and point out what’s happening to those around you. Most important of all, talk about it with your children and teach them how evil it is. 

Here’s the trailer on from My Five Wives, TLC’s latest sell-job on polygamy.

YouTube Preview Image

Sister Wives pushes “plural marriage” in the courts. This one isn’t as worshipful of polygamy.

YouTube Preview Image

Big Love. Where the sell job started.

YouTube Preview Image

And, if that’s not enough, let’s look at the sell-job on “polyamory.”

YouTube Preview Image

 

 

  • saulofhearts

    Polygamy and polyamory are two different things, so don’t confuse the two. Polygamy is patriarchal and generally based in religious beliefs. Polyamory is more diverse and open-ended, and reflects a variety of ways that humans fall in love and form family structures.

    • Faithr

      I don’t believe that polygamy is generally based in religious beliefs, though some religions have adapted it. Polygamy occurs/ed in all kinds of cultures from India to Amer-indian. If you are looking to increase the numbers of your tribe, polygamy makes sense. You get more children that way. It is patriarchal because that is what makes sense if one is optimizing the numbers of babies. Polyamory is just a fancy name for people who have a very screwed up understanding of what love really is.

      • saulofhearts

        It’s true that polygamy has been around in other forms and other cultures, though the videos shown in this article were mostly related to Mormon-based polygamy. As for polyamory, I’ve met many (including married couples) for whom incorporating multiple partners has deepened their connection and love. Some of them feel that the posessive nature of monogamy reflects a screwed-up understanding of love. Personally, I think there’s room for both types of relationships and what counts as “love” varies from person to person.

        • Faithr

          This stems from a completely deconstructed meaning of love where the player gets to define it. Love is a universal and it requires certain elements to be what is. I really think this idea of multiple partners stems from attachment disorder brought on by the breakdown of the family. No one really knows how to love, to be self-sacrificing, to put the good of the other before their own desires, because it is has never been taught them. They are doing the best they can I suppose but they can never seem to get beyond the selfishness, game-playing, over-rationalization it takes to decide loyalty and exclusivity are bad things. They are detached from their own hearts so they can’t recognize intimacy, true union, when they see it.

          • saulofhearts

            You can call it “attachment disorder” if you like, but it’s true that the modern world and notion of family is changing. Those of us who have left our childhood hometowns and don’t have large extended families to depend on (or, because of the state of the economy, can’t afford to buy a house and raise kids), find it makes sense to share our lives with multiple committed partners. If two couples form a poly family and devote their time and finances to raising one child between them, I’d say it’s quite “self-sacrificing”, and no different than an extended family with uncles and aunts to help raise the kid.

            • hamiltonr

              I’m going to allow this series of comments as a teaching device. But I am not going to allow this blog turn into a venue for promoting what this kind of social sickness and sin. Be ready to be deleted in the future.

    • http://outsidetheautisticasylum.blogspot.com/ Theodore Seeber

      “In Love” my eye. In Lust is more like it.

      • saulofhearts

        Polyamory isn’t primarily based in sex (that would be swinging, though there can be some overlap). Most poly folk form deep emotional bonds with their partners, which, by most definitions of love, would fit the bill. Even so, love and lust aren’t mutually exclusive, are they?

        • http://outsidetheautisticasylum.blogspot.com/ Theodore Seeber

          One can only form a “deep emotional bond” with a single other individual. There are only 24 hours in a day after all.

          And yes, love and lust are indeed mutually exclusive. Love intends the good of the other person. lust intends only the good of the self.

          • saulofhearts

            We all have different ways of forming “deep emotional bonds”. When it comes to platonic friendship, some people have a “best friend” whom they talk to every day and keep informed about everything; others have a few close friends whom they connect with less frequently, but just as deeply. I think the only people who can judge the quality of a “deep emotional bond” are those who are experiencing it.

        • Faithr

          From a Catholic perspective lust is a sin because it objectives the one being lusted for. Everyone is a child of God and deserves to be treated with dignity, not as an object but as a whole human being. Sexual desire is the desire for union with the other which is something that can only happen in marriage as Jesus described it: one man, one woman, forever. You might want to read up on the Catholic understanding of love and marriage. It is very profound, beautiful and the most romantic, ennobling approach ever. It makes the modern worldly understanding of relationships look shallow, tawdry and cheap (which, it turns out, is what they are).

          • saulofhearts

            I’ve read up on it plenty (13 years of Catholic school). The result was that I felt lost and alienated, and thought that no one else experienced love and attraction the way I did — as deep, yet non-exclusive, commitment. This made it difficult for me to find true and meaningful connections in my own life. Fortunately, I’ve been able to surround myself with people who do share those views.

            I don’t ask you to agree with my take on it, but to respect that there are multiple viewpoints in this world and just because your approach may work for you doesn’t mean that it’s the best option for everyone. I think commitment in any form (exclusive or not, romantic, platonic, or sexual) is something that should be honored and celebrated.

  • cestusdei

    I suspect incest will be the next taboo to fall.

    • Annalisa

      Since when is loving a person taboo?

  • Johnathan Collier

    I’m mostly confused. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can actually love and have a romantic relationship with more than one person? I just do not understand why there’s so much opposition to this. I mean, speaking as a person in a polyamorous relationship myself i don’t see how we’re hurting absolutely anyone. We don’t do anything vastly different from any other family unit, including the way we raise our child and relate to eachother, and our only relationship problems aside from the same ones all people deal with come from outsiders trying their best to make our lives hard for no real reason other than that they hate our existences.

    Someone help me understand. Why is my relationship so threatening and disgusting to you? neither i, my wife, my lover, nor my metamour are kicking down your door and forcing you to have orgies at gunpoint. So why the hate? Why the accusations that our very happy relationships are somehow inherently evil?


CLOSE | X

HIDE | X