You Won’t be an Effective Leader if You are Too Busy Trying to Be Someone Else

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My friend, a high-level manager at a financial services firm, confided he felt as if he were leading a double-life. Not in a sordid, creepy way, involving drugs or scandal or Liza Minnelli cabaret impersonations by night. Rather, he complained that his “work” persona and his “home” persona had grown distinctly separate over the years, and it made him [Read More...]

How Not to Suck Up to Your Boss


A colleague of mine, an older, distinguished gentleman, has this habit of trying to predict and finish my sentences. For instance, when I start a conversation, he’ll interject these vocal micro-blips while I’m speaking, as if he was just about to say the exact same thing. Me: “We were on the verge of closing the Colosco deal, [Read More...]

Five Things to Stop Doing in 2015


Strategy consultant Dorie Clark wrote an intriguing post a couple years ago at Harvard Business Review blogs presenting somewhat of an anti-outlook for New Year’s goal-setting. Instead of promoting typical professional stretch-goal tips, she made suggestions for things to stop doing, in order to become more focused and productive. Her red lighted list of things to stop doing included such helpful recommendations [Read More...]

It’s Okay to Feel Stupid Sometimes


Have you ever been in a meeting, minding your own business, maybe thinking about what  you might want to have for dinner that night, when suddenly you realize all eyes have turned on you looking for an opinion? Except that you have no idea what they were just talking about? It’s not that you weren’t paying attention. [Read More...]

The Secret Art of Reinventing Yourself


Eighth grade is typically a harsh year for pre-teens, and mine was no exception. I was not the most athletically coordinated boy, which placed me firmly at the lowest ranking of the middle school echelon. Add to that my greasy hair, braces, and over-sized, thick-lens eyeglasses, and you start to get a very sorry picture. Thankfully, [Read More...]

A Near-Death-Back-to-Work Experience


Not long ago my wife and I hosted a small group meeting at our house – you know, the thing where a few couples from church get together for some bible study, finger foods, and conversation about faith. Wow – that just sounded scarily churchy-cliche and conventional. But really, it was refreshing, as our group became comfortable talking [Read More...]