Common Spiritual Longings

Direction session

Spiritual direction is a specialty ministry. It is designed to assist those who long for a companion on their spiritual journey. It’s not particularly goal-oriented like life coaching or diagnostic like therapy. Not everyone needs spiritual direction. Some people find guidance in a host of other places: within themselves, from friends, from spiritual reading, or [Read More...]

Warning Signs in Spiritual Direction

In spiritual direction as in much of life, you have to be careful. While most spiritual directors (I believe) are highly ethical and want only the best for you, there have been cases of abuse by spiritual directors. That is why I recommend everyone interested in spiritual direction (directors and directees) obtain and read a [Read More...]

Your rights in spiritual direction

code of ethics

When you enter a spiritual direction relationship you are entering a world in which there is a specific culture and ethics but no actual overseeing body that can guarantee your rights. So, like much else in life it is a case of “let the buyer beware.” Most spiritual directors are kind, loving and highly ethical [Read More...]

Spiritual Directors’ Code of Ethics

code of ethics

Although there is no governing body overseeing and monitoring spiritual directors, there is a code of ethics we work by. Developed in the early 1990’s by spiritual directors who were also working in confidential helping professions such as social work, therapy, pastoral counseling and pastoral ministry, this code is found in an inexpensive booklet by [Read More...]

Your First Session

The first session with a new spiritual director can sometimes feel as awkward as a first date. You have a lot you want to know about the director and he or she has a lot they want to get to know about you. That’s why it can be hard to tell from just one session [Read More...]

When Spiritual Directors are Hard to Find

If you live in a metropolitan area, you will probably have lots of spiritual directors to choose from. But if you are in rural America, you may be lucky to have even one within driving distance of you. That does not mean you are limited to that one director! Technology is changing the way spiritual [Read More...]

Intuition and the Search for a Spiritual Director

Intuition is an inner knowing that is not necessarily based on cold, hard facts. Some people are better at identifying and listening to intuition than others. I want to reflect on how you may use your intuition to find the right spiritual director. One reason experts suggest you make appointments with at least three spiritual [Read More...]

Finding a Good Fit in a Spiritual Director

One of the advantages of having a lot of spiritual direction training programs around these days is that—at least in some areas of the country—you have a lot of spiritual directors to choose from.  Even with supply at its highest, it is important that you are comfortable with the person you choose. First, spend some [Read More...]

Two Styles of Spiritual Direction to Choose From

There are two basic  styles of spiritual direction you can choose from, and it’s important to know which you prefer. These two styles are non-directive (also known as evocative) and directive. Non-Directive If you want a lot of spiritual directors to choose from and if you need someone trained primarily in non-judgmental listening, this is [Read More...]

Not all Spiritual Directors have been Trained

direction session

Although I have written a lot here about training programs for spiritual directors, it is important to note that not all spiritual directors have been through training.  You may find an excellent spiritual director who has been working as one for years but never went to Shalem, Mercy Center, Hesychia School or anywhere else. This [Read More...]


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