“The Whole World in Her Hands”: A Gyno-Maniacal War on Men? – UPDATED

My First Things column this week draws on the coarse and destructive hook-up culture that has been not only embraced by women but is in some ways being driven by them:

Writing for The Atlantic in September of 2012, Hanna Rosin argued that the “hookup culture” so prevalent on college campuses and in the lives of young adults is “an engine of female progress—one being harnessed and driven by women themselves.” She wrote:

To put it crudely, feminist progress right now largely depends on the existence of the hookup culture. And to a surprising degree, it is women—not men—who are perpetuating the culture, especially in school, cannily manipulating it to make space for their success, always keeping their own ends in mind.

For college girls these days, an overly serious suitor fills the same role an accidental pregnancy did in the 19th century: a danger to be avoided at all costs, lest it get in the way of a promising future.

In other words, women have succeeded in becoming the men they hated.

From there I jump off a weirdly gyno-maniacal statement from Rep. Jan Schakowsky (D-IL) that women need to have the whole world in their better-than-mens hands (!) and then use two very different books to argue that a gyno-centric world is an ultimately destructive idea:

If forensic psychologist and men’s rights activist Helen Smith is correct, Schakowsky and her friends may have their hands full of the world, and sooner than they think. In her upcoming book Men on Strike, Smith offers up statistics and her own research to suggest that men are consciously boycotting marriage, fatherhood, and the “American Dream” because they feel beaten down by politically correct preferences and practices—in school, in the workplace, and in society in general. If the women want the world and all the power, the thinking goes, they can have it; the men will simply retire to whatever man-caves they are permitted.

And…

The sexual revolution promise that women could “have it all” has always been oddly paradoxical: It encouraged women to find their best selves by aping men and conforming to traditionally male valuations of worth and relevance. Mistaking the word “equal” for the word “same,” these “hookup feminists” have become precisely the shallow, insincere, career-fixated, people-users that early feminists decried. From spare button-down shirt in the office, to meaningless sex, Don Draper has not disappeared; he has just changed his name to Donna. Women replace men, but the story—contra Schakowsky—stays the same.

Schakowsky’s hope for a world led by women is also challenged by Mary Eberstadt’s just-released book How the West Really Lost God. Eberstadt challenges the accepted notion that faith supports marriage and the family, asking whether it is not actually the other way around—that the forming of families leads to faith.

The conclusion may surprise you. You can read the whole thing, here

And of course, there is an antidote to all of this

UPDATE:
Yes, gyno-mania
is a bad, mind-bending and destructive thing as Simcha Fisher notes here

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  • http://ashesfromburntroses.blogspot.com/ Manny

    I agree with everything you say here. Contemporary society has become a disaster. The nature of gender relationships has been destroyed, and it seems to be getting worse. Each subsequent decade 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s, 00s, 10s, one could speculate that it can’t get any worse, but it does. And we haven’t in my estimation hit rock bottom yet. Add now with same sex marriage and group marriages in the future they will have successfully deconstructed the foundation of society. I hate to be a pessimist but it will get worse still.
    Let me also say, it’s not totally women’s fault. Men are just as much to blame and though men have typically been looser sexually that’s more a low expectation thing. Stop this soft bigotry of low expectations. When sex is decoupled from consequences, both genders seem to behave about the same. Apply the same standards to both genders. Of course, that’s if anyone gives a damn about standards.

  • Strife

    It has finally come to this: Purity is despised while amateur prostitution is elevated to the societal level of a secular virtue.

    At the root of most Liberal-Progressive ideologies and agendas is the self-centered sexual desires of the perpetual adolescent brat who is forever trapped within their own life-long temper tantrum.

  • Victor

    (((In other words, women have succeeded in becoming the men they hated.)))

    Hearing all of this stuff is enough to drive a normal person in sane but “I” want YA to know Anchoress and Manny that “ME”, “ME” and “ME” have “IT” all covered NOW. We trinity gods have nothing to fear cause we’ll come to Victor’s rescue in “Time” NOW! Long story short, people, “I” mean you man, no, no, “I” mean humans, anyway, as we speak, the alien gods who are tuned in with U>S 98% gods of Victor’s 2 per sent age flesh cells left are working on your salvation and “IT” is just a matter of “Time” before we convince “Mother Nature” to go back to the “OLD DAYS” NOW. Yes! The time SHE was in charge of her twelve children when life was a LOT better and as a matter of fact, the month of May is starting to feel sorry for her spiritual sibblings and is very sorry for what her sibblings are doing to civilization. She is very concerned about whether the weather can continue because of what is taking place around this small world and she’s promised U>S gods that she would look into “IT” personally and………

    End YA say sinner vic?

    Hey Victor! I was just about to tell every “ONE” to keep praying cause all of U>S (usual sinners) are about to receive what we truly deserve NOW!

    Go Figure folks! :)

    http://ashesfromburntroses.blogspot.ca/2013/05/matthew-monday-mickey-ears.html

    Peace

  • http://twitter.com/waywardson23 James

    A significant amount of the feminist movement seems dedicated to excusing women’s bad behavior and irresponsibility.

    No, not every “feminist” agrees with this (there are many different schools of feminism, some of which I agree with very strongly) but much of modern secular feminist thought boils down to women wanting to do whatever they want to do without any consequences. This is especially true when it comes to sex.

    When consequences inevitably happen, such feminism finds scapegoats so that women can blame someone else and avoid looking at how their own actions led to the situation.

    Such behavior is considered immature and childish in men and is a recipe for failure and unhappiness. As someone who believes in women’s equality, the same must be true for women.

  • conservativemama

    Women “aping” men resulted in nothing more than the complete devaluation of a woman’s inherent worth. We bring forth life. We nurture life. We are the heart of a home, the home that nurtures, loves, protects, defends, and builds the family, which strengthens society.

    By “aping” men we told women that the work they’ve done since the gender has walked the earth was of no value, even though the species would not have survived without women doing that work.

    Instead, we outsourced mom, to nannies and au pairs and daycare centers. And the family has suffered, so society has suffered.

    If like me, you have a daughter who’s just become a woman, just graduated from college and is close to being engaged, you have a tremendous responsibility to be honest with them about the choices women can make and where those choices might lead. There is much to be discussed.


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