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Why Are You Trading One Set of Problems For Another?

March 19, 2018 By Victorious Living

Every one of us has at least one problem at the forefront of our minds. We believe solving this problem will free us from negativity and open up a world of possibilities. The salvation of this circumstance will set us free. Unfortunately, this is almost never the case. What ends up happening is we trade one set of problems for another. The idiom ‘the grass is greener on the other side’ is perhaps the most prevailent lie in our culture…. Read more

The Secret to Discovering Truth in Your Life

March 16, 2018 By Victorious Living

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Humans have a complicated relationship with truth. It is the thing we are most searching for. The lifeblood of our thoughts and actions. And we all think we have a pretty good grasp of it. Discovering truth is more complicated than we think. Often, truth is a developed pattern, a simple reinforcement of what we have been conditioned to know as right and good. Our perceptions limit us. They are the boundaries with which we view the world. Truth is… Read more

A Transcendent Life

March 14, 2018 By Victorious Living

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Our post-modern world is becoming more and more compartmentalized. Everything is so fast. Things change so quickly. We are a people who flip through circumstances like an impatient channel-surfer, waiting to land on something comfortable, something familiar. If I feel awkward, I pull out my phone and change worlds with the click of a button. People are more accessible than ever – if a relationship causes tension, I can move to another through a variety of apps and opportunities. The… Read more

3 Major Obstacles for Effective Communication

March 12, 2018 By Victorious Living

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There is something wrong with the way we communicate. I know it. You know it. So why don’t we do anything about it? I mean, it shouldn’t be so hard, should it? If we take a look at these three simple obstacles and face them head on, I’m sure we can all do a lot better. A Case Study Earlier today, I was stuck on a New York City subway train for thirty minutes. It can be a disconcerting… Read more

An Invitation To Change

March 9, 2018 By Victorious Living

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I spend a lot of my life feeling like something just isn’t quite right. I know there are some changes I need to make, but I often get hung up trying to figure out exactly what to change and how to change it. If I am honest, the true issue is that I do not feel the deep motivation for change. I’m lacking in commitment. Last week, my wife and I were in Uganda. We spent a week training… Read more

How Personal Boundaries Can Expand your Freedom

March 7, 2018 By Victorious Living

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We typically view boundaries as a hindrance to our freedom. We define freedom in terms of a lack of boundaries, an absence of limit. But ‘doing anything we want’ is not the same as being free. And setting personal boundaries can, paradoxically, expand the freedom out of which we live. Defining Freedom First, we need to address our understanding of freedom. Freedom is not the absence of boundaries but the absence of negative consequences. When we laud the value of… Read more

Two Metaphors on Casting Vision

March 5, 2018 By Victorious Living

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I was on the phone with a missionary recently and we were talking about the value of metaphors. He is an aspiring actor and we were discussing the value of storytelling to communicate truth. Jesus Himself spoke in parables. Movies and books are all the rage in modern society. We love when a good story tells a good truth. We were talking about the value of casting vision. He is in a leadership position and is having a hard time… Read more

Who Can We Trust?

March 2, 2018 By Victorious Living

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As one of the three things we can control, deciding who we trust is an extremely important part of a well-lived life. It sets up our expectations for community and reveals what we value in relationships. So, who can be trusted? Can the government be trusted? Can you trust your family or your friends? Can you truly trust your spouse? Can you trust the media? Can you trust advertising or insurance? Can you trust yourself? Can you trust God? The… Read more

Complacency Is The Silent Killer Destroying Your Relationships

February 28, 2018 By Victorious Living

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There are lots of things that destroy relationships. Anger. The battle for control. Unmet expectations. But there are few things as dangerous as complacency. It may very well be that complacency is the first manifestation of all of the relationship killers. A passive lack of purpose and intention is a wedge that separates all sorts of relationships. Why do we give in to apathy and what is so dangerous about it? A Lion in the Grass The reason complacency is so… Read more

Is ‘The List’ About What You Want in a Spouse Poisoning Your Expectations?

February 26, 2018 By Victorious Living

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It’s a common practice among singles. The making of The List. This is a catalog of the things the single wants in a spouse. The idea being to establish a standard to help guide them toward finding a spouse and having a healthy marriage. Name exactly what you want and don’t settle for anything else. Is this a healthy practice for singles? Are they establishing healthy boundaries or setting unhealthy expectations? The Good Part Intentionality is a good thing. Purpose… Read more