We spend every day of our lives trying to avoid it. We spend every minute in it trying to escape. Turmoil. The fear of it keeps us hidden and shackled, careful to the point of crippling. Is it possible that uproar is actually good for us? Consider the movies we watch and the books we read. They are driven by turmoil. No great story starts happy and ends happy with nothing but happy in the middle. Tension drives our stories,… Read more

Every one of us has at least one problem at the forefront of our minds. We believe solving this problem will free us from negativity and open up a world of possibilities. The salvation of this circumstance will set us free. Unfortunately, this is almost never the case. What ends up happening is we trade one set of problems for another. The idiom ‘the grass is greener on the other side’ is perhaps the most prevailent lie in our culture…. Read more

Humans have a complicated relationship with truth. It is the thing we are most searching for. The lifeblood of our thoughts and actions. And we all think we have a pretty good grasp of it. Discovering truth is more complicated than we think. Often, truth is a developed pattern, a simple reinforcement of what we have been conditioned to know as right and good. Our perceptions limit us. They are the boundaries with which we view the world. Truth is… Read more

Our post-modern world is becoming more and more compartmentalized. Everything is so fast. Things change so quickly. We are a people who flip through circumstances like an impatient channel-surfer, waiting to land on something comfortable, something familiar. If I feel awkward, I pull out my phone and change worlds with the click of a button. People are more accessible than ever – if a relationship causes tension, I can move to another through a variety of apps and opportunities. The… Read more

There is something wrong with the way we communicate. I know it. You know it. So why don’t we do anything about it? I mean, it shouldn’t be so hard, should it? If we take a look at these three simple obstacles and face them head on, I’m sure we can all do a lot better.   A Case Study Earlier today, I was stuck on a New York City subway train for thirty minutes. It can be a disconcerting… Read more

  I spend a lot of my life feeling like something just isn’t quite right. I know there are some changes I need to make, but I often get hung up trying to figure out exactly what to change and how to change it. If I am honest, the true issue is that I do not feel the deep motivation for change. I’m lacking in commitment. Last week, my wife and I were in Uganda. We spent a week training… Read more

We typically view boundaries as a hindrance to our freedom. We define freedom in terms of a lack of boundaries, an absence of limit. But ‘doing anything we want’ is not the same as being free. And setting personal boundaries can, paradoxically, expand the freedom out of which we live. Defining Freedom First, we need to address our understanding of freedom. Freedom is not the absence of boundaries but the absence of negative consequences. When we laud the value of… Read more

I was on the phone with a missionary recently and we were talking about the value of metaphors. He is an aspiring actor and we were discussing the value of storytelling to communicate truth. Jesus Himself spoke in parables. Movies and books are all the rage in modern society. We love when a good story tells a good truth. We were talking about the value of casting vision. He is in a leadership position and is having a hard time… Read more

As one of the three things we can control, deciding who we trust is an extremely important part of a well-lived life. It sets up our expectations for community and reveals what we value in relationships. So, who can be trusted? Can the government be trusted? Can you trust your family or your friends? Can you truly trust your spouse? Can you trust the media? Can you trust advertising or insurance? Can you trust yourself? Can you trust God? The… Read more

There are lots of things that destroy relationships. Anger. The battle for control. Unmet expectations. But there are few things as dangerous as complacency. It may very well be that complacency is the first manifestation of all of the relationship killers. A passive lack of purpose and intention is a wedge that separates all sorts of relationships. Why do we give in to apathy and what is so dangerous about it? A Lion in the Grass The reason complacency is so… Read more

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