December 31, 2018

We live in New York City and almost every day, there is a news story about someone completely loosing it on the subway. They scream, they yell. They rant, they rave. Just yesterday, we were on a train where a guy got annoyed with another passenger and started mumbling racist condemnations in anger. Why is it so hard for us to control ourselves? There is nothing wrong with emotions. But when we use them improperly, they get the best of… Read more

December 28, 2018

If you are anything like me, as soon as things go badly, you look around for someone or something to blame it on. We are all trying so hard for perfection. We try to look perfect, act perfect, and feel perfect. Any cracks in the system could split the dam into pieces. And heaven help me if the floodgates were to open, spilling the raw contents of myself into the world.     It Doesn’t Work But my obsession with… Read more

December 26, 2018

One of the best parts of being a New Yorker is walking around the city. There is nothing like bopping through the city that never sleeps with a pair of headphones on and not a care in the world. It’s not always that romantic. But it is pretty incredible. There is so much to see here. Neighborhoods, people, and architecture are constantly changing. It is like a kaleidoscope. But one thing I’ve noticed lately is that there are some things… Read more

December 24, 2018

I have to admit; we had a totally different plan for the blog today. But my wife and I were walking back from lunch and saw a miracle. A genuine Christmas miracle. The college we work at is on Broadway, right across from the famous statue of the Wall Street Charging Bull.     Although we walk by it almost every day, I don’t think I’ve ever seen the statue in full. There are ALWAYS throngs of tourists crowded around,… Read more

December 21, 2018

With the holidays in full swing and the end of the year fast approaching, it is a natural time to be thinking about the life we are living. Christmas traditions with family and the turn of the calendar are special invitations to look at the choices we’ve made and dream about how to make better ones. Don’t let New Years sneak up on you. Resolutions don’t happen in a vacuum (at least not successful ones). If we want the kind… Read more

December 19, 2018

New Yorkers have a lot of strange habits. We live in a unique city, and unique behaviors develop. One of the most interesting of these behaviors is the way we act on a subway platform while waiting for the train. If you find yourself in this setting, you will notice a few sporadic individuals engaged in this activity. They will take a couple trepidatious steps to the edge of the platform and look as far down the track as they… Read more

December 17, 2018

I had the opportunity to go to a Christmas concert the other day. It was put on by the college students we work with. There were a few instruments but the star attraction, of course, were the voices of the choir. A few years ago I had a thought that really blew my mind. I was reminded of it during the concert. The thought is this: every sound an instrument can make can be replicated by the human voice. That… Read more

December 14, 2018

A small little holiday tradition has developed in our house. The construction of a thousand-piece puzzle. We bought one a couple years ago and loved doing it. Puzzle-doing is a fine activity in cold weather with a cup of tea or a bowl of soup beside you. One of the reasons we love puzzles is the challenge. You dump out all the pieces and look at the image on the box and it seems almost impossible. You know you’ll get… Read more

December 12, 2018

All of us want to change. We want to be better. At least we claim we do. As we walk down the street or stand in line at the grocery store, we imagine things we might do to improve our health, energy, appearance, or social standing. We are longing to thrive and live lives full of action. But too often our ideas die on the back of our tongue. They disappear in the wind. Why is it so hard for… Read more

December 10, 2018

I’ve been watching a true crime documentary on Netflix. The newly retained defense lawyer met with the defendant and made a pretty audacious statement. She said: “I am going to find the truth. So, you better not be guilty. Because if you are, I will find out.” In essence, she was saying, “the truth might destroy you”. The same is true for our relationships. We don’t say this out loud, because it sounds so counter-intuitive. But we are afraid of… Read more

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