An Affair not to Remember

Last week, I finally used a gift certificate for a massage that expired the next day.  Scott had come home from work so I snuck out and refused to tell the kids where I was going—I just didn’t want anything to interfere with my enjoyment, especially their accusations that I was self-indulgent.  When I got back, a daughter immediately began sniffing me all over, my neck, my arms, my back—it was like having a tall thin and beautiful beagle greet me.  “What are you doing?” I asked.“I’ … [Read more...]

Sex! Now that I’ve got your attention. . .

(Those were the signs advertising game booths and malasadas and Korean plate lunch plastered all over telephone poles and tents at Punahou Carnival, the largest carnival in the state of Hawaii that my school put on every year)This morning Scott and I will be giving the “Sex Talk” at the Cana Marriage Retreat.  We gave it 2 years ago, and surprise surprise, no matter how I recruited others to give it this year, everyone politely declined.  Since Friday, our family’s been serving at Cana— … [Read more...]


Two days ago I competed in the first ever Boston Grad/Faculty Ministries Guac-off at our annual summer team meeting/pool/jerk chicken BBQ party.The competition was stiff.  Jeff, who hails from Southern California, hence has the most authentic experience with guacamole, brought the best avocados—large, creamy and in perfect condition (although his wife apparently told him he shouldn’t even compete—such is the strength of my culinary reputation!).  As always, not my guac--but mine looks l … [Read more...]

The Little Way

For someone with a significance/achievement addiction, it’s hard to work in campus ministry.  The vast majority of my peers have high powered, respected jobs that pay quite well.  While I, to put it bluntly, don’t.  A bunch of years ago, several of us on the Harvard ministry team found ourselves struggling with this conundrum.  It’s hard to earn a prestigious degree or two and then raise your own salary for a job that no one seems to understand.  As we prayed and proce … [Read more...]

Asian Aging. . . Again

(3 days after posting the greatest cartoon on Asian aging, I unfortunately must report on the next step in my saga)Yesterday Ling and I attended the 1st birthday party for the son of 2 former students, Jas and Jon.  They were married 8 years ago and Ling, Kai and Ren were their flower girls and ring bearer.  It was fun to have Ling tower over this mostly Asian-American, mostly parents-of-young-children crew of partiers and remind them that she was waist high at the wedding.I … [Read more...]

Asian Aging

Folks keep asking me why I'm on the i-diet.Look at the picture below and you'll see the answer:I've always said that Asian women look young, look young, look young, and then all of a sudden look like chimpanzees as their faces collapse into wrinkles.As a peri-menopausal woman, I feel the tug towards that chubby cheeked round pot of a woman and I'm trying to avoid it the best I can, hence the i-diet.Meanwhile, true confessions. . .  I cheated.Not on the diet, I've been doing that daily. … [Read more...]

A Sad Day

Today I’m taking Ren out of camp, skipping my conference call and driving up to Vermont to attend my brother-in-law’s Dad’s funeral.  Pete’s dad passed away Sunday morning after a quick cancerous decline.  Three weeks ago, Pete and my sister rushed up to Vermont to say goodbye, not knowing whether they’d make it in time, but his Dad rallied and hung on.My parents flew into Boston yesterday from Hawaii so they could attend the funeral.  I was surprised they would go to all this effo … [Read more...]

4th of July: Mortification take 2

“I don’t understand why you sent the girls down with water-skis if you weren’t planning on being here to drive the boat,” I said in my most snarky voice to my iphone (I think that’s where the kids get it—see snarkiness blog).  “Um.  I’m not your husband.”“Oh. . .  Really?  You sound like him.”“I guess that’s not surprising,” said my brother-in-law Andy.  “Should I get him?”“Well, you could get him, or you could just blast him for me the way I just blasted you.”Sheesh.&nbs … [Read more...]