Tip #3: Get to the point – men want to hear the conclusion up front
The male brain is generally wired to think things through internally, while the female brain is wired exactly the opposite: we generally think things through by talking it through. In fact, it’s actually quite difficult for a man to fully think things through while you or he are talking. Even more crucial: unless he knows where you’re going, it is difficult for him to fully listen! So state the conclusion up front.
One man told me he employed a lot of teenagers in his ice cream shops, and was a bit frustrated that when female employees called to tell him something, they tended to want to tell the whole story before telling him the conclusion. Which made it extremely uncomfortable to listen! As he put it, “While she’s telling the story of this security problem that just happened, I don’t know if what she’s going to end with is ‘so everything is fine’ or ‘the shop burned down!”
Instead, a guy will much better process your story if you said something like this: “So, we had a problem and we had to call security due to a fight. But it’s all ok. Here’s what happened and the steps I took. Do you want to hear any more?” State the conclusion up front, a few of the details and ask if they want to hear any more. Otherwise it’s difficult for the guys to listen because they don’t know how—or when—it’s going to end.
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