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Ignoring The Signals

He continued:

One particular friend who disagreed with me tried to send me signals, but I blew right past those. Thinking his efforts to disengage were weakness, I went even harder, desperate to claim my victory. By the time I realized my grave mistake, it was too late. I had deeply wounded my friend. I confessed my sin and he was gracious to forgive me. I repented and in His mercy, God has held me in that. But I had said things that couldn’t be unheard. I had written things that couldn’t be unread. That friendship has never been what it once was. I’m hopeful it may be again someday, but I will need to walk a very humble road for that to happen. All these years later, I don’t feel so strongly about the issue we were debating. But I miss my friend.

And so, dear friends, I hope you’ll learn from my mistake. I know you think that post needs a response. I know you think you’re right. You probably are. But I’m telling you there’s a cost. Make sure it’s one you’re prepared to pay and trust me when I say it probably isn’t. Soon enough—whether months or years from now—you won’t care that much about whatever issue just popped up. But you’ll really wish that friendship was in a better place.