Roadblock #7: “It doesn’t matter if they don’t share my faith.”
Action: Be willing to put God first.
Confronting this particular assumption is crucial, because it points to an actual roadblock, not an overblown fear. The reality is: it does matter if your potential spouse doesn’t share your faith. This topic is so foundational, it requires more than just a few words in a blog. You can find many books, articles, and sermons on it. But there’s only one thing that needs to be emphasized here: Marriage was invented by God and it requires us to put God in the center of that relationship. That is impossible to do if one party in the relationship also does not put God in the center.
Much research has found that marriages in which one person is a churchgoing Christian and the other just isn’t interested, endure many unique heartaches. Many believers in those marriages have described feeling pulled away from God, or feeling anguished over the fact that their spouse won’t join them and the kids at church (or don’t want the kids to go to church at all).
So ask yourself whether you are blowing through an obvious red flashing light if you’re continuing to pursue an “unequally yoked” relationship toward marriage. If we are followers of Jesus, our first love must be Him rather than our significant other. After all, He is the one who knows what will allow us to thrive.
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