Don’t: Critique your spouse’s dreams!
In response to one of the survey questions for Thriving in Love & Money, we found a fascinating dynamic when a husband starts to dream out loud. Consider this scenario, which may, um, have been similar to something that happened in my house a few years ago:
Husband: “When we retire, I would love to move to Maine and open a bed and breakfast.”
Wife: “But the kids are here. And we’ve made so many memories in this house. And we don’t know anyone in Maine! How could you even think that?”
Wives! Try the decaf! He’s not selling the house and moving to Maine tomorrow. As I had to force myself to realize: He’s just blue-sky dreaming and he wants you to join him. Sometimes simply relaxing with a response like, “I never knew that. Tell me why that sounds amazing to you,” reveals something about our spouse that we didn’t know.
And isn’t that true for all of today’s tips? Whether we’re connecting, surprising, talking, or dreaming, a thriving marriage is a constant process of discovery.
So, by all means, plan regular date nights if that’s a routine you enjoy. But, bigger picture, make time to connect, discover, and grow. After all, you never know what you’ll learn about each other during a spirited game of H-O-R-S-E.
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