6 Steps to Change Your Marriage for the Better (Part 2)

 Step #3: Be kind.

When we are hurt, instead of acting in bitterness or anger, God offers us a better way: “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32)

We all struggle, and sometimes the deepest parts of these struggles are things we can’t put into words – at least right away – even with our spouses.

Simply being kind in the moments when we are hurt can diffuse conflict, disarm our spouse’s defenses, and change our own feelings for the better. This doesn’t mean ignoring something that needs to be discussed. But purposeful kindness can help part the clouds during a hard time.

After all, when you mess up, you want your spouse to be kind to you, right?

To help you apply this well – and all the other secrets of the happy marriages! – I hope you’ll tune in to this season’s Married With Benefits podcast.

I also hope you’ll consider taking Family Life’s Summer Couple’s Challenge!! It’s a great way of investing in your marriage this summer.

*Sadly, there will be a small percentage of marriages where a troubled spouse has simply emotionally checked out, or where abuse is present. Ask an objective but trusted pastor or friend for their input on the situation in your marriage, and get help if needed.

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