Shift #1: Realize you cannot change the other person – and if it is a spouse, that you chose this person!
We know this, but we constantly forget it: we cannot change the other person, we can only change ourselves. That sounds cliché but it is TRUE.
We also have to own that this is the person we chose! After all, many things that drive us nuts about someone are the very things that drew us to them – and that we still love about them in a different context. The woman at Target chose a man who was a Tigger personality, and chose to start a family with him. Presumably, she loved that he had a great sense of humor!
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