Expectation #4: She’ll understand that I need to work long hours because I’m working hard to provide.
His bold assumption: My wife needs security, and I want to give that to her, so she’ll be okay with me working late.
Reality: According to our research, 70% of married women said if they had to choose financial security or security in their relationship, they would choose to give up the finances if that was what it took to have enough time together.
What to do: Talk to your wife about what kind of security she’s looking for. Your wife may be in the 30%, and you won’t know that until you ask. But as noted, in our research for For Men Only, we found that more than any “thing” you could provide, it’s highly likely that your wife would rather give up some sense of financial security—or downsize your family’s lifestyle—if this meant you could be home more with the family.
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