What Your Husband Is Really Thinking When He Wants Sex

1.“I want to feel like you want me.”   

Many of us assume sex is mostly a physical need for a guy. And when we are tired, sleep seems like a pretty big physical need too! But there’s so much more going on under the surface. When you respond to him—or initiate sex yourself—it meets a deep emotional need in your man to feel that you desire him. 

 Now, of course, plenty of women feel the exact same way! In our research for Secrets of Sex and Marriage, one out of four women are the “higher desire wife.” And if you are one of those women, you will not want to miss our podcast When the Wife Wants More Sex this week with J Parker, author of The Higher Desire Wife. J Parker has a wonderful ministry to this often-overlooked group of women. 

 But statistically, we have found that most women truly don’t understand how feeling desired fills a man up emotionally. It gives him a sense of confidence in every other area of his life, not just in the bedroom. On our nationally representative survey for For Women Only, [77%] of men said that was true of them.