10 modern myths about marriage

3. My friends know me, so they are the best place to get marriage ADVICE.

Nearly everyone in your life is going to offer you advice and share their opinions with you. We trust our friends, so we naturally assume their marriage advice is going to be solid, BUT the best advice is usually going to come from outside your peer group BECAUSE your peers are dealing with the same stuff you’re dealing with. You need a mentor; not just a friend. You need to find advice and wisdom from someone is ahead of you and probably older than you. Find someone with the kind of marriage you hope to have twenty years from now and ask them for advice.

4. I still have a right to PRIVACY (I don’t have to tell my husband/wife everything).

This one always tends to offend people, but it’s vital to a healthy marriage. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy and if you want a healthy marriage, you have to have total transparency and trust. This means don’t keep secrets, hidden passwords, hidden money, hidden conversations or anything else your spouse doesn’t have full access to. The healthiest couples value transparency over privacy. They place their RESPONSIBILITY to their spouse ahead of their RIGHTS to privacy.