12 Questions to Consider Before Divorcing

2. Am I more focused on my rights or my responsibilities? 

We live in a world where we’re all taught to be focused on protecting our own rights. In America (where I live), we even have a “Bill of Rights” but what we don’t have is a “Bill of Responsibilities.” I’m all for rights, but without equal focus on responsibilities, we can become lazy, entitled and blinded by our own selfish agendas. In marriage, this happens all the time. We can get so focused on what our spouse should be doing for us, that we forget about all we should be doing for him/her. We only want to give as much effort as we think someone deserves, but we forget that people usually need love the most in those moments when they deserve it least. Try giving your spouse your best even when they’re at their worst and you might be surprised by how things start changing.

#3 has a longterm impact on your life and your legacy…