I have some good friends who are experiencing ongoing tension in their marriage. They seem stuck in a frustrating cycle of miscommunication, hurt feelings and sadness. More than once they’ve talked seriously about throwing in the towel and going their separate ways. They’ve drifted apart and they don’t know where they went wrong or how to fix it.
As I’ve interacted with married couples from all over the world, I’ve observed that my friends’ situation isn’t unique. MANY couples experience this same cycle which leads to feelings of hopelessness and it can make the option of divorce appear like an attractive fresh start instead of a devastating last resort.
I’ve started trying to answer the question: Why Does This Happen? Why do couples who at one time were strong, united and happy flounder into feeling disconnected and more like adversaries than partners? There are many factors that can contribute to this, but below I’ve listed out some of the most common (plus ways to correct the problem and start growing closer together).
Here are the five most common reasons couples drift apart and what you can do to prevent (or correct) these issues in your own marriage (in no particular order)…