5 Things You Need to Tell Your Spouse

Yesterday, my wife and I were driving home in separate cars and she looked back in the rearview mirror and caught me picking my nose. I was in my car alone and didn’t think anyone could see me, so I was really going for it (up to my second knuckle at least).

She sent me a text message making fun of me for picking, and when we got home, she lovingly told me that I needed to either stop picking my nose in the car or get tinted windows. Of course, now that I’ve shared this gross habit with the world online, I suppose I’m an “Out of the Closet Nose Picker” and I can continue doing it publicly (even without tinted windows).

We had a good laugh about this, but it got me thinking. Ashley loved me enough to point out something unpleasant. When someone loves you, they do this, right? When you have something stuck in your teeth, a real friend will tell you, while a mere acquaintance will just smile and walk away.

As we work with married couples from all over the world, I’m convinced that the healthiest couples are the ones that communicate about everything, and they do it with a loving, encouraging tone. They don’t keep secrets, they call each other out when necessary, they find reasons to laugh together (a lot) and they make honest, transparent communication a priority.

We can all grow in these areas, so to help us get started, I’ve put together a few of the messages that all married couples need to communicate with each other. Please read the list below and apply these principles to your marriage.

The 5 things you must be wiling to tell your spouse are (in no particular order)…