6 Signs that a Spouse is Considering Divorce

2. He/She sees him/herself as either the VICTIM or the HERO in every situation (never the one at fault).

Another part of the mental coping mechanism for a spouse who is pulling away is to refuse to take responsibility for his/her actions. He/she will have a difficult time seeing it as “wrong.” To make this twisted view of reality work, he/she is forced to redefine reality where he/she is NEVER in the wrong about anything. When things are going well, he/she plays the hero. When things are going badly, he/she plays the victim. They refuse to see fault in themselves. They’re never the “bad guy” in the story even when confronted by the clear evidence of their sin.

#3 is probably the MOST common sign of adultery and/or dishonesty in marriage…