My wife Ashley and I have been working with married couples for years and our interactions with husbands and wives from all over the world have taught us a lot about what makes a marriage work and the unique needs of men and of women.
We’ve written and spoken extensively about the need for consistent sex in marriage (including our new book The Naked Truth about Sex and Marriage). A lot has been written specifically about a man’s need and desire for sexual fulfillment and how it might be his biggest need. As a man, I can certainly attest to the need and desire for sex BUT I’m convinced that there are some things that are even bigger needs than sex. Every man is unique, so I’m always reluctant to outline a “one-size-fits-all” list, but I do strongly believe that every man needs every item on this list.
If you’re a woman reading this, I hope this provides some perspective and clarity about what your husband is thinking and feeling even if he struggles to verbalize it. If you’re a mom, this could also give you insight into the thoughts and struggles your sons might be having.
If you’re a man reading this, please prioritize all of these. Don’t take shortcuts and try to create a life without these things. Don’t let your pride get in the way. You can “survive” without some of these, but living a full life and reaching your full potential will require all of them.
Seven things all men need are (in no particular order)…