Ten questions to ask before getting a divorce or separation

8. Do I want my spouse to be happy or do I want him/her to suffer?

When you’re considering divorce, you’re probably feeling a mixture of emotions towards your spouse. He/she has probably disappointed you or maybe even hurt you in some way, so you might be tempted to “get even.” If you find yourself tempted to use divorce as a means of revenge or to inflict emotional pain on your spouse, you need to take a step back and re-evaluate your motives and your state of mind. No matter what you’ve been through, hurting your spouse won’t make you feel better.

#9 is a good test of motives…