5. You feel your spouse is always prioritizing other people or pursuits ahead of you (or you’re prioritizing other things ahead of them).
Marriage means (or should mean) intentionally and consistently giving your primary loyalty to your spouse. That’s the way it’s supposed to work. If your loyalty isn’t to your spouse (or their loyalty isn’t to you), then the marriage is broken. You and your spouse need to give each other your very best. Your spouse shouldn’t have to get your leftovers and you shouldn’t have to settle for his/her leftovers. If this is happening in your marriage, please take action to redefine the priorities and place the marriage back on top.