Ten signs a marriage is in trouble

7. You and/or your spouse frequently brings up past hurts and past mistakes which shows a lack of forgiveness.

No marriage can survive without forgiveness. We all need it and we all need to give it. Without true forgiveness, grudges and bitterness take root creating a toxic tone of negativity and accusation in the marriage. Let forgiveness flow freely in your marriage, but also recognize that forgiveness and trust are two different things. When trust has been broken, forgiveness should happen right away, but trust will take time to rebuild. You don’t have to fully trust your spouse in order to forgive him/her, BUT you do have to forgive in order to make trust possible again.