I’m sorry I asked

Most of us know, were all super annoyed when others offer their unsolicited opinion on everything from parenting to lawn care.  But what to do when you ask?

It seems the more conversations Dave & I have with people about our baby name options the more I find myself getting defensive, offended & just plain old hurt.  I used to be annoyed to death when parents kept their baby name choice a secret until the little tyke was born but now I get it!  It’s awful having folks raking your choices through the mud.

When I was preggo with Ransom we told people at 21 weeks that his name was going to be “Ransom David”.  Because it was a decision we only got a few brave types who offered, “I don’t like that, don’t pick that name.”  And a few others, “oh, that’s, well, that’s an interesting choice.”

But now that I’ve asked publicly on my blog we’ve gotten all sorts of awful feedback, “Luke is gay,” “don’t spell Ryhs that way,” “Simeon sounds stupid,” etc.  I don’t want to know what any one thinks anymore.

I also, stupidly asked what people thought of my new tag-line for my blog.  Dumb!  That opened up everyone’s opinions with one of my friends saying she didn’t like “gabbing with grace,” at all.  No harm meant at all (she knows I love her) it’s just that for some reason my preggo hormones can’t handle all of these opinions right now.  I’m all hurt for no reason –I mean, seriously –it’s just a tag-line!

Usually I’m all ears & often ask folks for suggestions on all facets of my life with one exception: fashion.  I remember once, my friends J & J met me at the airport after a long InterVarsity conference.  They both took one look at me & offered, “I don’t like that outfit,” “yeah, it’s sort of cheesy.”  (I coulda smacked them both.  I’ve since forgiven them & were still tight:)  And I happened to like what I was wearing.

I never, never ever, never ever ask for advice on fashion because I know exactly what I like & never ever want anyone’s opinion on any fashion choice I make.  I’m thinking I need to adopt this attitude for things that are some how creative.  Well, at least for the rest of this pregnancy –I’m too emotional, yall.

So, no more advice from you on baby names, blog taglines (look, design or feel) & for-all-thats-good-in-the-world about any of my outfits. 😉  Thanks, but no thanks.

What about you?  What unsolicited -or solicited- advice annoys, angers or hurts you the most???  In the meantime, I’ll do my best to keep my trapper shut.