I’ve realized lately that part of my job is to help people become more hurtful. In popular culture, the declaration comes at the beginning of a relationship, “I’ll never hurt you!” There’s a determination about this, an avowal that this time will be different, I won’t be like your parents or your last partner or the rest of the world. I’ll be your sanctuary, where all is safe. Unfortunately, this noble commitment becomes the curse of relationship. I don’t want... Read more