Seventh key to conscious communication: Committing to impeccable integrity

Last updated on: September 29, 2010 at 3:53 pm By Julie Colwell

What ideas pop up for you when you read the words impeccable integrity? Here are my thoughts: Integrity: Remember integers? This is about wholeness. All as one. All come into alignment: Thoughts, feelings, words, actions. Impeccable: The dictionary definition of “impeccable” has to do with flawlessness and perfection, but in this work of consciousness, it’s really the intention of being on target, landing in that zone of the body that says, “yes, I’m totally in alignment with myself.” What does... Read more

Sixth key to conscious communication: Solving from creative brain

Last updated on: September 27, 2010 at 5:52 pm By Julie Colwell

Remember a time you were in a conflict with someone. Can you recall how your body felt? It’s universal: When we feel threatened by conflict we shift into Reactive Brain, where we automatically go into a fight, flight, or freeze response. Immediately our pulse quickens, our blood pressure rises, stress chemicals pour through our bodies, our muscles tighten. These physiological changes are programmed into us from millions of years of evolution. You wouldn’t be sitting here reading this if your... Read more

Fifth key to conscious communication: Noticing your state

Last updated on: September 22, 2010 at 1:24 pm By Julie Colwell

As David Hawkins says, human consciousness is innocent. In other words, no matter what emotional state we’re in, we believe ourselves, and have difficulty accessing other states. If we’re afraid, we see everything there is to be afraid of, and can pull up memories of what has frightened us in the past. If we’re angry, we tune into all the things to be angry about. Because of this challenging aspect of our human software, it’s essential to be able to... Read more

Fourth key to conscious communication: Taking responsibility

Last updated on: September 15, 2010 at 10:10 am By Julie Colwell

If blame feels so good, why don’t I feel better? It’s driving me out of my mind. If blame feels so good, why don’t I feel better? Not misery and pain all the time. –Julia Colwell In my foray into writing Country Western songs (I wrote three for our briefly formed band, “Everything in the Key of C”), I love that line the most. Because if blaming other people feels so good, why doesn’t it result in me actually feeling... Read more

Third key to conscious communication: Speaking the truth

Last updated on: September 13, 2010 at 7:37 am By Julie Colwell

People have reasons for not telling the truth. Good ones, even. Reasons like: It’s not that big of a deal. It’s not a good time. It’s inconvenient. White lies keep relationships oiled and running smoothly. You won’t like it. It will hurt your feelings. It’s good to keep some things to yourself; it helps the sense of mystery. There’s more to the story, though. Let’s look under the surface of those reasons to find out what’s really going on. Isn’t... Read more

Second key to conscious communication: Connection to self

Last updated on: September 9, 2010 at 5:03 pm By Julie Colwell

Have you ever uttered (or heard) these words? “I don’t feel connected to you.” Behind this declaration is an idea that connection is like a delicate thread spun by some mysterious process, one that gets easily cut by an unseen hand. However, if you understand what “connection” is actually made of, you can create intimate connection no matter what. To connect with another, you first must connect with yourself. Well, ok–that may sound like the “first you have to love... Read more

First key to conscious communication: Freedom to feel

Last updated on: September 7, 2010 at 10:13 am By Julie Colwell

If I were queen of the planet earth, my first decree would be thus: ANYBODY GETS TO FEEL ANYTHING, ANYTIME, FOR ANY REASON. When I figured out this rule of living, I was stepping towards liberation of my spirit, of my life. I had operated this way: I’d feel kind of grumpy or out of sorts, and try to figure out “why.” I’d look around me. Did I have a good reason to feel mad? No–clearly, everyone was doing the... Read more

Beyond fair fighting: Keys to conscious communication

Last updated on: September 5, 2010 at 10:11 am By Julie Colwell

I remember when I first discovered the idea of “fair fighting.” Growing up in a family where the siblings fought quite a lot, this idea made sense to me. Even as kids, there were rules: No pinching. No spitting. No hitting in the face. (Unfortunately, as the youngest, there wasn’t a rule about “fight with someone your own size.” But that’s another post.) Once I’d been in the world of adult relationships for awhile, I realized I needed a similar... Read more

How we create from our state

Last updated on: August 30, 2010 at 9:16 pm By Julie Colwell

According to David Hawkins, in his book Power vs. Force, every emotional state we enter into has its own particular vibration. Hawkins created an arbitrary, logarithmic scale of 0-1000 and lined up states on it from most dense to most expanded. For example, on the Hawkins scale Shame is a 20, Fear is at 100, and Anger is 150. Courage is the dividing line between Force and Power at 200; everything above 200 (Love at 500; Joy at 600; and... Read more

How am I creating this? (Part 3)

Last updated on: August 27, 2010 at 11:24 am By Julie Colwell

One of the trickier aspects of being human is having a logical brain that understands cause and effect. You do something; I have a reaction. Thus you caused my reaction. Right? So then my efforts go into making sure you don’t do that thing so I don’t have the reaction. If I can just get you to use a different tone, or not talk first thing in the morning, or be sure to give me space after I had a... Read more