(Jonathan Ryan posting for Jen Schlameuss-Perry.)
I had a couple of hours alone one evening this past week and boy, did I use it to the fullest! I watched, in perfect peace and in absolute control of the remote, “Justice League: Crisis on Two Earths.” It was delightful. Not only was it a great superhero story with lots of action and insight into Batman’s inner darkness, but there was an AMAZING scene between J’onn J’onzz and the alternate Earth’s President’s daughter, Rose.
The two felt a connection between them, and after spending some time together, discovered romantic feelings as well. Rose went to kiss J’onn to express her developing feelings, when he stopped her—and something beautiful happened…I looked and looked for a clip of this scene, but this printed dialogue was the best I could do:
J’onn J’onzz: I apologize for reading your mind before. It is considered extremely impolite to do so without permission.
Rose Wilson: I didn’t mind. It seemed, I don’t know, natural.
J’onn J’onzz: We are attuned. Our minds are in sync to a degree that was rare even among my own people. I never imagined I’d meet a human so complimentary to myself.
Rose Wilson: I feel it, attuned.
[Rose leans in to kiss him]
J’onn J’onzz: What are you doing?
Rose Wilson: Trying to kiss you. On Earth, it’s a way of sharing affection.
J’onn J’onzz: This is how we do it on Mars. Know me.
So, after he said, “Know me,” he put her head in his hands and opened their minds so they could share memories. And share, they did! They shared happy moments, and devastating moments, they experienced each other’s past and were privileged to see the people that each loved. The exchange was so intimate. Before that moment, a kiss would have been nice—but it wouldn’t have ranked with that mind meld.
We talk about knowing in the “Biblical sense” being code for sex—but it’s more than code. It’s a reality. This “knowing” goes beyond the physical act of sex—it’s the fulfillment of an already established, committed marital relationship. It presumes a shared experience and intimacy before sexual contact happens. Those things give deeper meaning to the physical closeness. And J’onn J’onzz nailed it (so to speak). For J’onn, intimacy is gained through entering into the psyche of another. How much sweeter must have been the kiss they shared at the end of the show. Plus, it’s always nice to see a guy being portrayed as respectful and interested in more than just a physical relationship.
The Martian way of showing love is not so different from the Earthling way. We all want to be known, loved and understood. The Martian way nurtures this desire in truth and encourages the lover up to be open to true affection and intimacy.