(Jonathan Ryan posting on behalf of Jen Schlameuss-Perry.)
The Princess Bride was on TV the other night. No matter what else is happening in my life, if I’m flipping channels and I come across The Princess Bride, that’s as far as I’m going. I have the movie on DVD—I could watch it any time I want—without commercials. But, if I see it on TV, I’m watching it. It was playing in the background while I was working, and while I wasn’t paying 100% attention to it, it didn’t stop me from saying the lines along with the movie. When the wedding scene came on, however, I began to pay attention. It’s hilarious.
Everybody knows; and I’m sure Prince Humperdink would have remembered if he wasn’t so rushed and stressed, that this was not a valid marriage. But, poor Buttercup was so distraught that she lost sight of this fact. Thankfully, Buttercup has Westley to put it in perspective.
It goes like this:
Buttercup: Oh, Wesley, will you ever forgive me?
Westley: What hideous sin have you committed lately?
Buttercup: I got married. I didn’t want to – it all happened so fast.
Westley: Never happened.
Westely: Never happened.
Buttercup: But it did I was there; this old man said ‘man and wife.’
Westley: Did you say ‘I do?’
Buttercup: Um, no…we sort of skipped that part.
Westley: Then you’re not married. You didn’t say it; you didn’t do it.
If you were married in a Church you were probably subjected to a whole lot of questioning, paperwork, meetings, Pre-Cana sessions and maybe a year’s worth of waiting. Why all the trouble? Because, like Buttercup, people need to know what they’re getting themselves into. No one can be tricked, coerced, bullied or guilted into a marriage. It has to be a free act of the will—both parties deliberately, lovingly (Catholic Canon Law actually says that love must be present), carefully and joyfully enter into the covenant. You have to know what you’re saying and say it with intention and in freedom. In fact, the couple are the actual do-ers of the sacrament—the priest or deacon is an official witness for the Church.
If you’re thinking about getting married, consider your intention, love for one another and what freedom you are going to offer yourselves in. If you’re married already, how are you choosing to live the vows that you made? How are you and your spouse making one another more fulfilled and free to answer the vocation that you have accepted in marriage?
Jen Schlameuss-Perry is a massive fan of sci-fi, cartoons and superheroes and loves to write about them in light of her Catholic tradition. She currently works for a Catholic Church and practices martial arts, cares for her family and pets and writes in her spare time. Check out some of Jen’s other stuff on her Facebook page or her website.