5. Let yourself be loved – by people, by God, and perhaps even by yourself.

Let yourself be loved, despite your pain. Despite your trust issues. And despite your trauma. When we internalize an image of a loving God, that love heals. If we sense a load of punishment, judgment, and unworthiness, it will eat away at our mental health and create a negative emotional life filled with shame.

If you find it a challenge to experience love, you can pray about it. But if it persists, this is where professional help may be needed.

Should you go to a counselor who might not be a Christian? I have gone to both Christian and non-Christian therapists and I’ve had good and bad experiences with both. Remember that counselors and psychologists have an ethical obligation to respect and give space to our spiritual and religious traditions. It is a personal decision and getting the kind of help that fits with who you are is what you want.