I haven't been doing my exercise, but does that mean I'm a bad person? Does it mean I've failed? No, it means I'm human. New Year's is the biggest swearing-off ritual around. But all too often the best intentions come up against habit, craving, temptation or just fatigue, the abstainer slips, and then they feel like a failure. Sometimes the self-criticism blurs into self-hatred feeding a downward spiral that takes them to a worse place than if there had been no resolution in the first place. The missing ingredient is love... Read more