1. Take care of your soul and yourself .

2. Deal with your own emotional issues so you are free to be respectful.

3. Encourage him with your words and actions. A lot of times we can show respect by what we don’t say, if you know what I mean.

4. Kiss him when you see him at the end of the day.

5. Greet him when you see him.

6. Try not to interrupt him when he’s speaking.

7. Avoid eye rolling, lip pursing or sighing during conversation.

8. Even if you don’t agree with him, try to understand where he’s coming from.

9. Say “please” and “thank you.”

10. Let him know you appreciate him for who he is, not what he does.

11. Initiate intimacy.

12. Compliment him.

13. Avoid criticizing him in front of others.

14. Look at him when he speaks.

15. Before you speak ask yourself, “Are my words kind and encouraging?”

16. Avoid correcting or “helping” him when you ask him to do something.

17. Try not to be sarcastic.

18. Respect his likes and dislikes.

19. Go to bed when he goes to bed.

20. Give him your BOD ( benefit of the doubt).

21. Ask for his advice.

22. Look nice for him.

23. Pick up the house before he comes home

24. Show your kids he’s your priority.

25. Tell him how he makes your life better.

26. Do something he likes with him. Allow him to teach you how to do it.

Here are ways I can help you:

  1. Visit my website   and  join my private Facebook group .
  2. Get on the wait list for my next group coaching session–Change Your Mind; Change Your Marriage
  3. Apply for private coaching with The Not So Excellent Wife Coaching.

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Also known as the Not So Excellent Wife, Sheila Qualls understands how tiring a tough marriage can be. She believes you deserve to be happy.

She went from the brink of divorce to having a thriving marriage by translating timeless truths into practical tools. She’s helped women just like you turn their men into the husbands they want.

After 33 years of marriage, she’s a speaker and  coach whose passion is to equip women to fix their relationships and become happy wives.

She and her husband Kendall live in Minnesota with their five children and their Black Lab, Largo.

In addition to coaching, Sheila is a member of the MOPS Speaker Network.  Her work has been featured on the MOPS Blog, The Upper Room, Grown and Flown, Scary Mommy, Beliefnet, Candidly Christian, Crosswalk.com, The Mighty and on various other sites on the Internet.