1. Tell him how he makes your life better.

2. Deal with your own emotional issues so you’re free to be respectful.

3. Encourage him with your words and actions. A lot of times we can show respect by what we don’t say, if you know what I mean.

4. Acknowledge him when you see him at the end of the day.

5. Try not to interrupt him when he’s speaking.

6. Avoid eye rolling, lip pursing or sighing during conversation.

7. Even if you don’t agree with him, try to understand where he’s coming from.

8. Say “please” and “thank you.”

9. Let him know you appreciate him for who he is, not what he does.

10. Initiate intimacy.

11. Compliment him.

12. Avoid criticizing him in front of others.

13. Look at him when he speaks.

14. Before you speak ask yourself, “Are my words kind and encouraging?”

15. Avoid correcting or “helping” him when you ask him to do something.

16. Try not to be sarcastic.

17. Respect his likes and dislikes.

18. Go to bed when he goes to bed.

19. Give him your BOD ( benefit of the doubt).

20. Ask for his advice.

21. Look nice for him.

22. Pick up the house before he comes home

23. Show your kids he’s your priority.

24. Do something he likes with him. Allow him to teach you how to do it.

Need skills to build intimacy?

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Also known as the Not So Excellent Wife, Sheila Qualls understands how tiring a tough marriage can be. 

She went from the brink of divorce to having a thriving marriage by translating timeless truths into practical skills. She’s helped women just like you turn their men into the husbands they want.

After 33 years of marriage, she’s a  coach  and a speaker whose passion is to equip women to break relationship-stifling habits and do marriage God’s way. And you don’t have to be a doormat to do it.

In addition to more than 33 years of marriage, Sheila has a Masters Degree in Communication and countless hours of mentoring and  coaching women.

She and her husband Kendall live in Minnesota with their five children and their Black Lab, Largo.

In addition to coaching, Sheila is a member of the MOPS Speaker Network.  Her work has been featured on the MOPS Blog, The Upper Room, Grown and Flown, Scary Mommy, Beliefnet, Candidly Christian, Crosswalk.com, The Mighty and on various other sites on the Internet.