“Love is in the air, everywhere I look around, Love is in the air, every sight and every sound…” As February draws near, this delightful song (Love is in the air by John Paul Young) seems to play over and over in my head. It’s an upbeat melody that lifts spirits and invites sing-a-longs. But, is love really in the air? It seems that Facebook is promoting hate as its patrons post arguments and verbal abuse across its board. The political debates continue to divide our country while stress builds daily from the government shutdown (thank goodness that has been resolved, at least for the time being.)
A Time for Love
If you are feeling at a lost as of late, upset from seeing so many hateful posts, remember that you do not need to follow suit. Stay strong and remember #lovewins and #loveisstrong. I have found myself devastated from all the hate that is easily seen in the media today. Whites against Blacks, Blacks against White, Men against Women, Women against men, the war against trans, gays, lesbians, the list goes on and on.
As a witch, I often find myself asking why we are so nasty to one another. The answer that comes back is always the same. So many people want/need power. Power at all costs. People are greedy, they want to be on top, have a large paycheck, drive the car to impress. Television commercials and internet ads promote more of.
Things are a distraction. If we are looking to compete or to stand up to the Jones, then we are not really looking at our own core values and ethics. More, we are looking at the Jones values and how we can mimic them, because after-all, they have the big house and fancy car.
STOP! For a minute.
Right this minute! Go look into the bathroom mirror. What do you see? Do you see a Lord or a Lady? Do you see someone that you love and respect? If not, why not? Take a deep breath, move closer to the mirror. Stare into your eyes like you are a lost lover. Can you? Say the magickal words “I LOVE YOU.” Can you do it with sincere meaning?
Many people have trouble doing this. It is easy to love another, but loving yourself can be a real trick. In the book “You can heal your life” by Louise Hayes, she writes about doing a similar exercise. The book goes further to change the way you look at yourself. There are affirmations to induce self-love, self-esteem and self-confidence. Something in my opinion, we all need in a society that is constantly asking us to judge ourselves.
For the next thirty days, look in the mirror and again say the words “I love you!” It may seem silly. It may seem hard. Do it any ways. How do you feel at the end of thirty days?
The most important love, is the love that you hold for yourself. Think about this, if you do not like, let alone love yourself, then how can you honestly love another. Take inventory of yourself. What are your morals, what are your strengths, weaknesses, what are your habits and behavior? Do you drink…. a lot, do you smoke, do you judge? Now think about the qualities of a person who may be attracted to a person with your answers. Are they the kind of person you are hoping to attract?
Love Each Other
When I go onto social media, I am often shocked of the rudeness to one another over different views and opinions. Now I do not have a problem with debates BUT can we just be civil about it? I have unfriended so many people due to their behavior. Let’s face it, we all seem to be a little braver behind the computer or phone screen. That doesn’t mean your manners go out the window.
As a witch, I choose LOVE! Sometimes, I have to keep this in check as it is easy to get sucked into a disagreement. If I cannot do it in a love based, nature based spirituality then I cannot expect others to as well. Be accountable for your actions and how you treat others, in person and online.
Pay It Forward
I love pay it forwards. It makes me feel great inside and surprised others when they least expect it but need it. I am not taking about being in the Starbucks line. You know, you get to the drive up window and the smiling face shouts out, the car ahead paid for your drink, would you like to pay it forward and pay for the next? I usually say “Sure.” One good deed deserves another, right? Then the total comes and you find out that there are four people in the car behind you and your mocha latte just cost you over twenty bucks. Does that even happen to others?
I am talking about the mother in front of you at your local grocery store. She has one screaming baby in the front and another toddler trying to take off toward the door. She is a couple of cents away from completing her transaction and digging for change. If you reach in your pocket, not only will you more than likely get a smile, but you will also get out of the store and on your way a tad bit faster. It could be snow blowing for your elderly neighbor, giving a homeless person a blessing bag, take food that your dog or cat will not eat to the local shelter.
You get the idea
Bottom line is, to get love, you have to give love. Give love to yourself, to people you do not know, to the ones you do. What you put out is what you will get back. Like attacks like.