The healing power of (modest) nudity

Over at Pantheon @ Patheos, Star Foster has posted about the phenomenon of “modest” nudity in Neopaganism, by which she seems to mean the un-self-conscious and non-eroticized display of (usually female) flesh.  She mentions the nudity at Pagan Spirit Gathering this past summer as an example.  I was a virgin-festival-goer at PSG this year.  And since I have never worked with a group that practices ritual nudity, this was my first experience with public nudity.  At PSG, I encountered men and women in various stages of dress and undress, and I was surprised to discover that it was a healing experience for me.

I admit to a certain trepidation approaching this subject as a man, as I am acutely aware of how, in Western culture, the male is stereotyped as the seeing subject and the female as the seen object, and how this dynamic has contributed to the subjugation of women in myriad ways.

"Phryne before the Areopagus" by Jean-Léon Gérôme

So I am aware that any account of a man’s visual experience of female nudity is treading dangerous ground in the (mostly) liberated culture that is Neopaganism.

By way of background, my own experience of female nudity over my lifetime has been ambivalent, to say the least, due largely to my Christian upbringing.  I recall reading, years ago, a collection of essays entitled Men Confront Pornography, edited by Michael Kimmel (which I have now misplaced unfortunately).  One of the contributors wrote about the centrality of men’s experience of looking, looking at women specifically, to the male psyche.  He wrote about the (often unconscious) resentment that is fostered in men who are expected by our culture to look at women, are aroused by looking at women (sometimes involuntarily), but are also shamed for looking, and shamed for their arousal.  I think this ambiguity in the male experience of looking at women is at the heart of misogyny.

Back when I was a Christian, the war between arousal and guilt was a defining dynamic for me.  When I left Christianity, one step in healing from that unhealthy dynamic was allowing myself to look at women without internal judgment, including casual visual encounters like on the street and also pornography and erotic art.

Another step was learning a new way of looking.  On this score, I was aided by a book written by tanrtic teacher, David Deida, called The Way of the Superior Man.  In that book, David Deida explains that physical arousal or attraction is not the result of choice, but the natural result of the flow of energy between masculine and feminine (wither hetero- or homo-sexual).  Therefore, Deida writes, the desire that a woman arouses in a man (or vice versa) should be treated as a blessing, “one of nature’s gifts to you.”  I was not a Pagan at the time I read this, but re-reading it now, it definitely resonates with my Pagan sensibilities.

Deida offers the following advice to men on how to develop a different visual experience of women:

“The next time you come upon a woman who sends a thrill through your body, relax into the thrill.  Let her waves of feminine energy move through your body like a deep massage.  Breathe fully, without resisting the joy her sighting affords you.  Breathe the joy all through your body, down to your toes.  Don’t stare at her … when you see her, and experience your attraction, fully allow the energy of the attraction to move freely through your body. … As you behold her, receive her vision as a blessing.”

Essentially, Deida applies the tantric practice of breathing to the experience of looking at women.  Men have a tendency to hold their breath when they approach orgasm.  By consciously maintaining a regular breathing pattern during intercourse, men can delay their orgasm and prolong the enjoyment of sex.  Interestingly, we also unconsciously hold our breath or restrict our breathing when we look at women.  I think in both instances the holding of the breath (usually accompanied by the constriction of various muscles) is a physical manifestation of an unconscious desire to control the experience.

"The Woman, the Man, and the Serpent" by John Liston Byam Shaw

Breathing naturally when looking at an arousing woman (or man) is a way of letting go.  When I breathe in, I receiving the blessing of the beauty of the woman I am looking at, but instead of holding on to it, I release it back into the world with my exhale.  I compare a healthy experience of visual arousal to enjoying the beauty of a flower: seeing it, appreciating, but then leaving it, not picking the flower to take it home (thus killing it).  The need to hold onto these moments of beauty and joy, to possess them, is what kills them, so to speak.  In my opinion, it is what transforms art into pornography.  It is a manifestation of what Alan Watts calls “the possessive will”, the will to grasp and hold the mystery and beauty of life,

“to freeze the desired form of the living moment into an eternal and immobile possession.  And so frozen, the thing is quite dead.  The moment, the movement, the life has passed on and gone free.”

This simple exercise of breathing in and out transformed my visual experience of women.  It transformed it from an experience dominated by an unconscious desire to possess, and is thus less likely to objectify the woman — since only objects can be possessed.

So back to my experience at PSG 2011.  At the festival, I encountered three kinds of nudity.  I am going to focus on the female nudity, since, as a heterosexual male, that is what has been problematic for me in my life.  (I may write about male nudity in another post.)  The first kind of female nudity I encountered was the completely un-self-conscious and non-erotic nudity of women at various workshops, performances, and other gatherings.

Minoan Palance Scene by Thomas Baker

This was a healing experience for me.  The women who were (partially) nude were so comfortable, and the people around them were so comfortable, that I couldn’t help be relax and be comfortable with them.  This was what I think Star was referring to as “modest” nudity.  And it was healing because I was able to release, at least while I was there, the ironically Puritanical obsession with nude bodies that I had be taught by mainstream culture.

What was also interesting was that I began to appreciate the beauty of the nude bodies of women who, under different circumstances, I would not have found find attractive.  But at the festival, everyone’s body seemed beautiful.  It sounds trite, but I really experience it that way.  There was something beautiful, something divine, about sitting across from a woman in a workshop with her breasts bared, something that had nothing to do with whether she would be considered attractive in the mainstream world.  She was far from the ideal female body type that mainstream culture endorses, but as I sat there, that woman “drew down” the Goddess for me; she incarnated the blessing of feminine physicality.

The experience called to mind a scene from the HBO series, Rome.  In episode 6 of season 1, there is a brief scene with an obese woman, painted red, receiving donations in the street.  She was a kind of living idol of the goddess Bona Dea.  So I will call this “Bona Dea nudity”.

Bona Dea

Leopard-enthroned goddess from the granary at Çatal Hüyuk circa 6000 BCE

The second type of nudity I encountered was at Pan’s Ball.  I have to say, I was disappointed with this event.  What was supposed to be a true Bacchanalia, a sacred revel if you will, seemed like a frat party to me.  There was no sacramental quality to the event a far as I could tell.  And, just as at a frat party, the nudity (male and female) at the Ball seemed very self-conscious.  Consequently, I felt very self-conscious.

“Lady Godiva” by John Collier

It was like the difference between American and French films.  The French films may actually show more skin, but the American films are so self-conscious about sex and nudity, you can almost hear the American film makers tittering over their own “naughtiness”.  It is a product of the fact that we are attracted to and obsessed by that which we stigmatize.  I was aroused by the nudity at Pan’s Ball, of course, but not comfortable.  And I left early.  I will call this “pseudo-bacchante nudity”.

The third type of nudity I encountered at PSG was at a drumming circle late at night near the end of the festival.  A group of women danced in a circle around a low burning fire.  One of them was a tall young woman with the most perfect breasts I have ever seen.  Watching her dance was definitely one of the most erotic experiences of my life.  But strangely, I was not uncomfortable or self-conscious.  This experience combined the un-self-consciousness of the first kind of nudity I described above (“Bona Dea nudity”), with the arousal of the second kind (“pseudo-bacchante nudity”).  This was perhaps the most healing of the three experiences, because is sacramentalized not only the nude bodies of the women that I saw, but also my arousal.  I will call this “true bacchante nudity”.

"The Youth of Bacchus" (detail) by William Adolphe Bouguereau

Was that experience modest?  I don’t know.  It was an erotic experience, but it was sacred one too.  For me, it was a validation of Anne Rice’s claim that “the erotic and the wholesome are not mutually exclusive.”  Something that is at the heart of the Neopagan ethic, I think.

I wonder, is this experience what  St. Ambrose tried ineffectually to express in the image of the “casta meretrix”, the “chaste prostitute”?  Is the longing for this kind of sacred eroticism at the root of the Madonna-whore complex in our culture?  Could this kind of experience help to heal men from the unhealthy ways we have learned to look at women?

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  • http://www.jonmoreshead.com drjon, the Renegade Doc

    Love your insights, well written, and I believe the answer to your last question is a resounding, and freeing, YES!


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