AskAngus18: Stone walls do not a prison make

Worried Witchy Wife: My husband is in prison.

He was imprisoned originally for an incident in which no one was killed or even hurt, and there wasn’t even an allegation of actual physical violence; nothing was stolen or destroyed; no drugs were involved. And yet, his sentence is 20 years!

It’s been more than three years now and I want him home. Shocker, huh? In circle, I have lit 3 candles: a pink one to surround him with healing so that he can release the anger and bitterness in his heart; a white one to send him protection of his mind, body, soul and spirit while in prison; and a purple one to send out the justice to rectify this situation, soon, and get him home.

When they burned out, I lit new candles in the same way but this time I was more specific: that the current writ of habeas corpus our lawyer has filed be accepted — if it is he will be released immediately to await trial on the original charges, and our lawyer is certain he will be found not guilty.

I was prompted to write this after I read a past blog where you said the deities sometimes get a kick out of granting requests and then just letting the chips fall where they may.

So is the safest bet not to ask or send out intent at all? How do we make our own will and desires known while also showing respect for the will and plans of Deity? Is purity of heart and intention enough to protect us from the whims of our gods and goddesses?  

Hey WWW, thanks for writing. That is quite a story! (I had to edit it down considerably.) First off, let’s talk about YOU. I know all of

your time, energy and resources have been put into bettering your husband’s situation, but here’s the thing: The last thing he wants for you is for you to be in a prison too.

So as you go about the mundane and the magical work of freeing your partner, do not neglect yourself, or your right to a fulfilling

Witchy fun

life. There is no reason why this situation should destroy your world as well as your unfortunate husbands’. Do what you can to help him, but remember that what he wants most in this case is for YOU to be happy.

There is a great tendency to feel extraordinarily guilty when one experiences joy in this type of situation. Try to fight that. You have every right to laugh and dance and see the wonders of this beautiful world while you are also doing this good work. I am sure that he wants you to be happy, so go forth and do so – you have permission!

At the very least, being adventurous and sparkly will perk up your visits and letters. Remember, he is living through you now – show him the good life that is waiting for him when he is released.

Now let’s address each of your 4 questions seperately.

  • 1) “I was prompted to write this after I read a past blog where you said the deities sometimes get a kick out of granting requests and then just letting the chips fall where they may.”

Ah, you are an astute reader! That was from THIS column, and the angle there was whether you should be careful what you ask for because you might get it. In this case though it appears you have done your research, meditated carefully, and have been specific in your spellwork. I wouldn’t worry on this count.

  • 2) “So is the safest bet not to ask or send out intent at all?”

It is if you are an Agnostic or Atheist. But for those of us with a relationship with Deity, it behooves us to yank on the Goddess’ sleeve every so often and clue Her in to what is going on in our world. DO send out your intent, but do NOT attach an alarm clock to your petition; the Gods work at their own pace. Do what you can on this end (and don’t forget that bit above about about having some fun), and know that you – and your incarcerated hubby – are loved by the Gods.

  • 3) “How do we make our own will and desires known while also showing respect for the will and plans of Deity?”

Approach with reverence and give of yourself fully. What the Gods and Goddesses are interested in is us, full and complete. So do not hide anything. The phrase here is “Perfect Love and Perfect Trust”. Don’t be afraid to cry in front of the Gods, or to cry TO the Gods. Railing and wailing to Deity is a part of many spiritual paths – let loose: being  honest with your Gods is being honest with yourself. Good things will result.

  • 4) Is purity of heart and intention enough to protect us from the whims of our gods and goddesses?

Nope. But its really all a matter of perspective. As stated above, the good folks upstairs operate on a different scale than we do. (My favorite line from the movie “Oh God!” is George Burns’ God explaining to John Denver, “When I woke up this morning, Sigmund Freud was still in Medical School.”)

Existing in eternal, radial time is hard for us to comprehend, and so some of the Gods actions (or non-actions) may seem baffling to us, in our limited linear-time, 3-D persepctive. The Gods are not capricious as much as they are deliberate. They see much more than we can ever imagine.

In short, hang in there. Do everything you can, on the paperwork level, on the magical level, and on the getting out and having a great time level. ALL of these are helping your Partner.

~AskAngus

Angus McMahan

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About Angus McMahan

Me? I'm just the drummer. Oh, I guess I write funny stuff now and then. When I am not scratching my head at the oddball questions that show up here I am penning witticisms over at www.angus-land.com

  • Ailis

    It is possible to be a pagan agnostic and maintain a strong and meaningful relationship with the Gods. Being agnostic simply means you accept the fact that science can neither prove nor disprove the existence of God, Goddess, Deity or Spirit. Accepting this fact and choosing to still trust in that possibility, I believe is the strongest form of faith and makes your relationship with the Gods stronger, deeper and more meaningful. I live with fierce intent everyday, trusting that deity exists based on my experiences alone. And I am first and foremost an agnostic.

    • Angus McMahan

      Thank you, Ailis. Well said!

  • Bianca Bradley

    To the original writer. Prison talk is a great resource. Hugs, because I know you need it.

    You are in Limbo. I understand that. Acknowledge your grief and pain. Tell the Gods how you feel(don’t blame them, tell them you hurt and why).

    Ok, now resources on how to help him magically. European tradition magic, doesn’t have the experience that the African community does. Get thee to rootworkers and do you some hoodoo.

    http://www.oldstyleconjure.com/ look under legal. Honey jars are also a good way to do things, as are sugar bags.(put the peoples names you want to be sweet to you in a sugar bag and leave it)

    This is another good resource. http://www.hoodooroots.com/

    • Worried Witchy WIfe

      Thank you for the resources and for your understanding.

      • Bianca Bradley

        Just got off the phone with my loved one in the federal prison. Ok, Some things you should be aware of. Going to see someone or people who are experienced about the system will help you. Apparently at 5 years in, seems to be a cusp for marriages or relationships in prison.

        btw federal or state. Fed, you have more time, but your safer, state unless your in one of the tough on crime places, you have less(parole) but aren’t as safe.

        There are psychological states that you should be aware of. My loved one, who was so very secure and confident, is not anymore. Insecurity is there.

        Change happens in both people. Your survival mechanism kicks in as well.

        It can be scary and stuff.

        So hugs hun. Deep breath and all, and if you want to talk to me privately, ok. Let me think on how to exhcange private contact info, so it isn’t for the world to see:)

        • Angus McMahan

          Thank you, Bianca!

  • Worried Witchy WIfe

    Angus, thank you SO MUCH for your thoughtful response to my question, and also for your concern for my own well-being. You’re right…it’s easy to forget about me. I was so touched by the attention you have my question and the obvious thought that went into your answer. I will definitely put your advice to use! Thank you again.


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